How are you at trusting people? Do you still believe there are people out there, even just one, who would care about you for you?

... and not for what they can get from you?
People who won't stab you in the back or take and take from you until you're drained?

I don't trust people. I didn't make the choice in one sitting, no. It's a reaction brought on by how I see them treat people and even myself.

I don't like that people take and take, either ignorant or just ignoring how that one person they spend time with is slowly fading away. I like both parties having a choice and being comfortable to say no. I like respect and mutual trust. I like people sensitive to know when they're sucking the energy out of another.

But most people don't care at all for as long as they get to take what they want. Ego feeding. A listener. Companionship. Comfort. Name it.

But it isn't fair for the other person.

But I still do believe that there are the opposite of energy vampirism, some great ones, true diamonds in the rough still waiting for me to meet them.

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Busybee333 · 31-35, F

I am sincere, compassionate, I want to trust but I am also prudent.

Many people lie or omit to say some things sometimes... for their own reasons. What differentiates one from the other is how they treat you. By their actions, you will sense the unsaid truths.

I have learned lessons from toxic people and in time of hardship, but I have also developed unhealthy attachments to the wrong people that made ME the toxic person. I couldn't figure out why it wasn't working and I was shocked to see that the problem was in me. I cut those bridges and set these people free from me because I felt like a monster. They were better without me. I regret not realizing this earlier. I've been a long way since then but I must say.. I have been from both sides, and I have been sincere and caring all this time - I was just incredibly depressed and lost in my heart and mind and that made me toxic to others. I hated myself and that is why nothing worked. Over the years I learned to rely more on myself, be nicer to myself and to [b]be responsible for my wellbeing.[/b]

So.. some people will hurt you intentionally, some, unintentionally, and some, who have attained better balance, will help you build an amazing trust bond for life. If you have not met anyone great yet, do not despair - chances are, they're also looking for you - you'll meet one day, hopefully soon 😊