What if we allowed each other and ourselves to feel pain without shame?
I’m not saying wallow in it, I’m saying just accept it as a valid emotion in your array of emotions. Then maybe it wouldn’t be such a big deal and you could use it as a chance to look into and understand yourself.
A lot of people act like we should be positive or always striving for joy and perfection. I think many of those people achieve that state by being dishonest with themselves. I say that because I’ve done it. I’ve done a lot of self destructive shit, but not until I allowed myself to just fkn feel it, did I understand I could manage it on my own.
It kinda sucks when you let stuff out and people make rude comments, or they offer advice or they tell you no, you can’t feel this. We all have our inner shit and we all deserve space and acceptance to explore that. We go up, we down. That mood is gonna change, and I wish we could understand that’s okay. To be with our sadness, to be with our joy, to be present with ourselves is to be complete, not deficient. When you make someone feel deficient constantly, they’re going to lose their grip on their reality because it doesn’t compare to the perfect one people love to portray.
Yes joy and love are grand! But that shit fades, dies, gets ruined, just as any other emotion. So why single happiness and positivity out as the ideal? It’s unbalanced. Look at our society, you think this push for perfection is working out? HA!
I love people as they are. You won’t get shame or boasting from me. You’ll get the raw realness.
A final thought. I cry a lot. And I have my reasons. I vent on here as I have no one. I’ve noticed over the years that as I’m more honest to myself about my feelings I can work through a range of them quickly. I learn.
I’m not down long and even when I’m low and slow, I still grow 🖤🪷
Love you guys 🖤
A lot of people act like we should be positive or always striving for joy and perfection. I think many of those people achieve that state by being dishonest with themselves. I say that because I’ve done it. I’ve done a lot of self destructive shit, but not until I allowed myself to just fkn feel it, did I understand I could manage it on my own.
It kinda sucks when you let stuff out and people make rude comments, or they offer advice or they tell you no, you can’t feel this. We all have our inner shit and we all deserve space and acceptance to explore that. We go up, we down. That mood is gonna change, and I wish we could understand that’s okay. To be with our sadness, to be with our joy, to be present with ourselves is to be complete, not deficient. When you make someone feel deficient constantly, they’re going to lose their grip on their reality because it doesn’t compare to the perfect one people love to portray.
Yes joy and love are grand! But that shit fades, dies, gets ruined, just as any other emotion. So why single happiness and positivity out as the ideal? It’s unbalanced. Look at our society, you think this push for perfection is working out? HA!
I love people as they are. You won’t get shame or boasting from me. You’ll get the raw realness.
A final thought. I cry a lot. And I have my reasons. I vent on here as I have no one. I’ve noticed over the years that as I’m more honest to myself about my feelings I can work through a range of them quickly. I learn.
I’m not down long and even when I’m low and slow, I still grow 🖤🪷
Love you guys 🖤
