I Admire People Who Are Not Afraid To Be Themselves

Growing up, I never tried to be someone I'm not, but I did hide aspects of myself, because I knew I would not be accepted for who I was, especially in the small town I grew up in. But, I never tried to change anything about me to 'fit in'. Then I fell in love. Slowly, over twenty years, I've worked hard to not be myself....to change who I am to make her happy. Now, I don't even know who I am anymore. I don't know how to get back the person I was, the person I really am somewhere inside. I'm angry, resentful, and sad that I've allowed this to happen. I truly do admire those who remain who they are and don't care what anyone else thinks. I wish I had of been that way 20 years ago.

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SoFine · 46-50, F

Then build up your self-love.
Your job in life is your happy place, not one other person can do this for you.
That is why long term relationships are so hard. Why each partner will bring out the others persons insecurities.
Your wife is your life GURU not your love.
You to you is your love.
The falling in love is an inward happening, we have a place (face/person) to look on, so we call this love, yet it is all internal.
That is why, how you are in you to begin with, will make or break the marriage.
The best gift that you can give you, is to daily meditate. Then you will begin to see how much you mull over what they did or did not do. In time you can then catch you when you mull over past stuff.
Your mind is your key to your happy place in life.
We attend to so much in our mind that we miss the truth of each moment.
** Quote for you**
Silent thought, is, after all, the mightiest agent in human affairs.—Channing.

newgirl · 56-60, F

It took me awhile to be happy with who I am, too. Lots of uncertainty and trying to be someone I'm not along the way. Once you discover who you are, you will realize that is the only way you can truly be happy. That is where I'm at now, I'm just me and that is what makes me feel good

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