Why is it considered socially acceptable for a woman to say I want a man six foot tall, with big d and abs

@ginnyfromtheblock tbh I cringe every time someone mentions this kind of vengeance for previous generations kinda thing... It literally implies that there's an active war between men and women and that a woman can find it okay to treat me as an enemy for what some man from our ancestors did... 😬

@ginnyfromtheblock if that is the logic, men should fight feminism fiercely.

@SW-User it’s not a generational thing, it’s systemic thing. society is built to benefit men. women have always had standards placed on them. women setting standards is establishing a power they didn’t previously have.

it’s like, you can’t compare two actions if they are not done on equal footing

@Lucia if the goal is for men to be more powerful than women, of course they wouldn’t want women to be equal to them through feminism lol

@ginnyfromtheblock I'm speechless tbh

I think more or less all of what you've said here is so unfair. I don't agree that society was built to benefit men or that standards are placed on women only, or that it's about power... Not to mention that this goes way far from the body shaming topic we were originally talking about, and I don't see any relevance

@SW-User Wow…😬 I’m trying not to be judgmental and keep an open mind! But you not seeing any relevance has my brain just exploding. I don’t want to insult you, I’m just absolutely blown away that you’re can’t see/are unaware. So let me just ask you…

Did young men ever have to marry ugly old women to better their families? Women, sorry…very young girls who were practically still children themselves, were forced into marriages they didn’t want for a long, long time. These girls had to pretend they were ok with it, smile and be pretty, do every single thing their husband wanted because he was the master of their home….the men owned land and the girls had rights to nothing. Without a man they couldn’t own their own land or home, they couldn’t have their own money. Women couldn’t even right books. Eventually they started writing under false names-men’s names-just to be able to write. Meanwhile, men did what they wanted and women couldn’t even speak if these men were abusing them or their children. No matter WHAT a man did, a woman had to stand by him through it all.

Even as times changed and women started being allowed to choose whose proposal they accepted, they still weren’t allowed to work and divorce was still such a sinful, unheard of crime. And if a female got pregnant while unwed, she was shipped off to disappear-never allowed to speak of it regardless of whether she’d been a willing participant or been raped…women have had to endure silently for soooo long. So yeah, it’s no surprise women are speaking up about what they like or don’t like.

@ginnyfromtheblock But that mentality wont bring equality either - it is just the notion that because what other men did, now something should be done to men by women.

We should fix wrongs - not repeat them.

@cherryxblossom Hey, I'm so sorry if my post hurts your feelings but I never meant to invalidate anybody's feelings (just as you're doing right now) I never denied that there's injustice towards women ( unlike you denying that there's injustice towards men too ) and I'm not diving us into opposite groups and taking sides against each other ( which is pretty much what's happening here right now )

I definitely agree that there are so many sorts of injustice towards women and that your feelings are valid. But does that justify how you and other women with the same attitude are blaming me for things other men did?

Do you think men NEVER experience any sorts of injustice too? Aren't you directly implying that in what you're saying?

@SW-User I never blamed you specifically for anything. I never said men haven’t suffered injustices. I wasn’t attacking you. I was specifically explaining reality because you stated that you didn’t see any relevance. Put your empathy boots on, reflect on history, and you’ll understand the answer to your question 100%.

@SW-User i’m stunned as well. i appreciate the examples @cherryxblossom listed of how society historically benefits men. i think you’ve got some learning to do. i recommend starting here to learn more about the power imbalance between men and women.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/you-are-not-meant-to-be-happy/202301/a-very-short-history-of-sexism?amp

again, i’m not condoning “body shaming” or whatever. having specifications for what you want from a partner listed on a profile is weird and no one should do it. i’m just trying to provide perspective on why it feels weird to you when women specifically do it but men are judged for it. i agree that no one should. you can keep those preferences to yourself to avoid hurting/shaming people

@ginnyfromtheblock I can also write a list of how society benefits women today. But I wouldn't do that because I'm too mature to have this same generalized war mentality.

Just because my feelings and my point of view are valid doesn't mean I have to invalidate yours.

I actually agree with all of that, I just don't agree with it being used to answer my question about double standards towards men.

@ginnyfromtheblock And "power imbalance" doesn't mean the same thing as the exaggerated expression "society was built to benefit men" that expression hurts because it's literally invalidating my entire being... Unless we're living in 2 different world, because I never lived in such society built to benefit me

@SW-User I am very interested to hear what examples you may give to shed light on what standards or restrictions have been placed men vs those placed on women. Honestly this whole debate is weird. I feel like an African American trying to explain to a white person how racism is still impacting their life today. Clearly our generation has not been involved in slavery and we shouldn’t be punished for the sins of our fathers. However, that doesn’t mean we can’t educate ourselves to understand the ripple effect of those events. Obviously, it’s harder to understand the full impact of something you have not experienced first hand as a man. However, you can listen, have compassion, and learn.