I'm a Loner Most of the Time

I like helping and connecting with others in meaningful ways. Being around most people is draining and exhausting for me. I often feel sad or lonely when in a crowd because I can't or more precisely, won't, connect to anyone there. I don't like feeling like I judge others too harshly, but I suppose that's exactly what I do. I think most people are selfish, superficial, and shallow. I look for depth in others and usually can't find it. So I go off to talk to the dog or walk through the trees instead.

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SolitaryFriend · 41-45, M

I've been a loner most of my life and felt most comfortable in my own company. It's easy to feel sad or alone in crowds of people when a majority of people are tailored to keep things light and superficial. If you can't share an interest then people don't want to talk about themselves deeply because it's more suited to private encounters. People as a whole are too critical of others that are different to them so we can't feel secure enough to have engaging group experiences outside of a single shared interest.