Ever feel like this sometimes?

@val70 Imagine if we could actually apply filters in life to choose only those we want to come in contact with.

@LilMissAnonyMOUSE Funny, never imagined that. Must be a young thing perhaps?

@val70 SW and other sites provide it so that we can narrow down our choices only to things we want to see and remove those we don't, like age groups(minors) and forums you're not interested in😊

@LilMissAnonyMOUSE Yep, exactly those things that got us into the trouuble that we're in

@val70 That's why we have to be cautious, careful of the choices we make and selective of the people we welcome into our circle and lives. Just go with those with a positive vibe, somehow they are the ones who make life more pleasant😊

@LilMissAnonyMOUSE I think that you have that the other way around. Be aware!

@val70 I don't understand, what do you mean I have it the other way around? Do you mean, not be selective and instead go with people who have negative vibes?Do you think they would make one's life more pleasant? I'm not criticizing you, I just want to know what you meant.

@LilMissAnonyMOUSE If can tell me anything positive about the winter days of life then you'll know more than me. No buts about it, I do get enough of this at my workplace and society at large. Why can't young people be different towards the elderly in society any more? Somehow it's again pigeonholing in being negative. I'm not that, because I know that I'm not that. In short, I'm just recounting that negativity sometimes comes with reason. That's also why it's about honouring ones parents, and not the other way around. Not criticizing you either. Just putting more meat on the bone

@val70 I get what you're saying. Unfortunately, I don't have the answer to that because each person has a different concept of life and how they handle growing old. All I know is that we were able to enjoy the time of youth and it is unfortunately part of the human experience that with growing old, the body becomes fragile, deteriorates and will render us feeling helpless and frustrated with the aches and pains...not to mention the constant fear that any fatal illness can befall us. But personally, I feel one's winter years are a time when we can look back with fondness at our younger years, the beautiful memories we have of them and accept the mistakes and sad moments of our past too, for we have reached a time in life where we have clearly left it in the past and hopefully have learned from them and also feel victorious that we have survived. I tell myself now that when I reach an older age, I should by then already be adopting a different mindframe, like.. be able to accept my limitations, have patience for all the frustrations, and have the mental strength to tolerate the pain and not let it depress me and destroy what's left of my time on earth. I know it won't be easy, we're told it's all downhill when we start aging...but I would rather convince myself that every day is a gift, despite the aches and pains, much like my grandmother took her aging with grace, even if she was wheelchair bound due to falling and breaking her pelvic bone. She was a true warrior whom I can only hope to be when I reach her age.

As for the younger generation not having respect for the elderly, unfortunately, many are not being raised correctly by parents who are too busy working that they do not have time to attend to their children's needs, and often to avoid arguments/conflict, some provide them with game consoles, cell phones, and money to go out and do whatever they please with their friends. When there is no guidance, love, and support at home, children grow up losing their way. It is an error to presume their school will substitute for parental guidance. Some have no respect for the elderly because some young people view frailty as weakness, something inferior. There seems to be a great disconnection from reality and emotions, feeling no empathy for others other than for themselves. If only all parents could read a book about a guide to perfect parenting, though there may be a few books around, no book can substitute love, or the acceptance and support for their children's problems with mental health. As for how we should feel about life in general at whatever stage of life, I think it's a question regarding existentialism, wanting to know why we're here, why things happen to us, and what any of this is even about. Who knows, really? I just personally feel that we are not the product of what life did to us, but instead feel that I am now much wiser, burned a few times perhaps, but alive and will fight to the end of my days because the other choice is just something I refuse to consider doing, which is being bitter about life and giving up.

@val70 Do you mean, when the world says only keep those who give you positive "vibes" they end up ignoring a whole world of people who are perhaps kind, compassionate and loving? I've met many a person down on their luck, most who would take bad vibes from who offer more in heart, especially from a generation programmed to feel good vibes, and meaning than those who say just find those who give positive vibes?

@awildsheepschase

Pardon me for commenting since your question is for val70 but just to clarify what I told her : ''That's why we have to be cautious, careful of the choices we make and selective of the people we welcome into our circle and lives. Just go with those with a positive vibe, somehow they are the ones who make life more pleasant''. This does not mean I ''end up ignoring a whole world of people who are compassionate and loving'' as you mentioned , for those are precisely who I consider as people with positive vibes. I too have met many people down on their luck and some have bigger hearts than some millionaires out there who lack humbleness and empathy. Thank goodness I have not been programmed in any way, I accept people for what they are but I do have the sense of self-preservation to avoid those who can hurt me and bring me towards the path of destruction and instead choose those who can inspire me to be a better person because they manifest that goodness and kindness of heart.

I just wanted to clarify after reading your comment, if in case you misunderstood what I said to val 70 as I see you have mentioned some of the words I used.