I Am An Infj
A brief rant spurred on by observations I formed when in the world of infj FB groups and forums:
Talking about someone's person-hood should be a cooperative process. In order to understand someone or help someone understand themselves, you have to get on their level, listen, and accept the fact that there are millions of things you don't know.
Unfortunately, a lot of people I met on personality pages are not that way. They'll say, "You are X because you said A which happened because B." And if you say, "Actually, A didn't happen because B. I know A started with C and this one incident years ago." then they won't even acknowledge that new piece of evidence. They'll just hop off in search of another piece of evidence/ botched logic in an effort to insist that you are X. At this point, they're no longer solving the puzzle of the person. They're trying to cut pieces of the puzzle in order to force them into a picture of their own creation.
This is kind of why I advise people to stay away from those sites. The self is a very personal thing and for some, personality typing is a way to study/ define the self (especially if you have a poor sense of identity- me. haha). You cannot rely on internet strangers to be careful with your self, as much as they insist they're trying to help/enlighten you. Often, personality types are treated like elite clubs/ races of people and people become defensive/prideful when you don't fit their stereotype of what that type ought to look like (especially true with some of the 'rarer' types). If you want to talk about typing, do so with a small cluster of knowledgeable people you trust.
Talking about someone's person-hood should be a cooperative process. In order to understand someone or help someone understand themselves, you have to get on their level, listen, and accept the fact that there are millions of things you don't know.
Unfortunately, a lot of people I met on personality pages are not that way. They'll say, "You are X because you said A which happened because B." And if you say, "Actually, A didn't happen because B. I know A started with C and this one incident years ago." then they won't even acknowledge that new piece of evidence. They'll just hop off in search of another piece of evidence/ botched logic in an effort to insist that you are X. At this point, they're no longer solving the puzzle of the person. They're trying to cut pieces of the puzzle in order to force them into a picture of their own creation.
This is kind of why I advise people to stay away from those sites. The self is a very personal thing and for some, personality typing is a way to study/ define the self (especially if you have a poor sense of identity- me. haha). You cannot rely on internet strangers to be careful with your self, as much as they insist they're trying to help/enlighten you. Often, personality types are treated like elite clubs/ races of people and people become defensive/prideful when you don't fit their stereotype of what that type ought to look like (especially true with some of the 'rarer' types). If you want to talk about typing, do so with a small cluster of knowledgeable people you trust.
22-25, F
