I Am An Infj
Does anyone ever find intj's to be incredibly irrational when it comes to people and quick to jump to conclusions? They're decent scientists and mathematicians but when it comes to personal relationships, if they're immature I just can't stand them.
Examples:
-Infp friend's intj dad would tell her all her teachers probably hate her because her weighted GPA dropped to a 4.7 because she got a few B's.
-Ex-friend
---My friends and I do this silly thing where we'll greet each other through meows instead of hellos. I'm quite certain I catalyzed it because I've had the weird habit of meowing since before I met them. One day, Intj ex-friend flipped out and told me I was a conformist, "otherwise you wouldn't be saying meow meow meow meow like everybody else!" before rolling her eyes.
---She'd make random vicious statements (there's a reason I said ex-friend) that made no sense. For example, when I was complaining about my ex-crush to someone else, she'd randomly but in to say, 'He doesn't care about you!' or if I was complaining he only liked me for my ass 'Girl! I don't think your ass is worth liking!' If I was telling her about an interaction with a teacher I'd known for years, she'd arrogantly say, 'That's because he doesn't know you!'
-My mum (BELATED ADDITION: I've come to think that she's not really an intj but istj because of her tendency to adhere to habits/rituals/teachings, to make decisions on the assumption that what happened before will happen again, and her assumption that what's true for her is true for all. I'm pretty sure she uses Te and Fi though)
I broke 2 of my front teeth once. She blamed it on my aunt who lives across the country because my aunt had convinced her to try WhatsApp which sparked a conversation from my dad about how I might attain the wifi password which led to me getting the wifi password which led to me getting less sleep than usual. Although not having enough sleep does cause you to be less alert, I'm a clumsy person and there's a multitude of reasons why this could have happened. You can't just narrow it down to one person.
She'd also jump to conclusions about me- often rolling her eyes before I'm finished talking at something she had imagined I was about to say.
She'd interpret the littlest remarks from my acquaintances as huge attacks on my character. Ex: A kid was trying to pressure me to hug my crush in middle school and said, 'well if he's not here today, there's always tomorrow'. My mother somehow interpreted this to mean that the kid didn't respect me and was saying that my only purpose in life was to lust after boys.
Every time we argue, she exaagerates every conflict I've ever had with others to say what a detestable individual I am and that everybody hates me. She'll then talk about how likable she is, her evidence being her relationship with my aunt, her 2 massage therapists, and a few friends she had in her twenties.
She once accused me of trying to sexually arouse my dad and made many other statements about me. As a kid, I didn't know how to explain my feelings and could only hop up and down in tears shouting, 'That's not true!' to which she'd reply 'If it wasn't true, you wouldn't be so upset.'
Examples:
-Infp friend's intj dad would tell her all her teachers probably hate her because her weighted GPA dropped to a 4.7 because she got a few B's.
-Ex-friend
---My friends and I do this silly thing where we'll greet each other through meows instead of hellos. I'm quite certain I catalyzed it because I've had the weird habit of meowing since before I met them. One day, Intj ex-friend flipped out and told me I was a conformist, "otherwise you wouldn't be saying meow meow meow meow like everybody else!" before rolling her eyes.
---She'd make random vicious statements (there's a reason I said ex-friend) that made no sense. For example, when I was complaining about my ex-crush to someone else, she'd randomly but in to say, 'He doesn't care about you!' or if I was complaining he only liked me for my ass 'Girl! I don't think your ass is worth liking!' If I was telling her about an interaction with a teacher I'd known for years, she'd arrogantly say, 'That's because he doesn't know you!'
-My mum (BELATED ADDITION: I've come to think that she's not really an intj but istj because of her tendency to adhere to habits/rituals/teachings, to make decisions on the assumption that what happened before will happen again, and her assumption that what's true for her is true for all. I'm pretty sure she uses Te and Fi though)
I broke 2 of my front teeth once. She blamed it on my aunt who lives across the country because my aunt had convinced her to try WhatsApp which sparked a conversation from my dad about how I might attain the wifi password which led to me getting the wifi password which led to me getting less sleep than usual. Although not having enough sleep does cause you to be less alert, I'm a clumsy person and there's a multitude of reasons why this could have happened. You can't just narrow it down to one person.
She'd also jump to conclusions about me- often rolling her eyes before I'm finished talking at something she had imagined I was about to say.
She'd interpret the littlest remarks from my acquaintances as huge attacks on my character. Ex: A kid was trying to pressure me to hug my crush in middle school and said, 'well if he's not here today, there's always tomorrow'. My mother somehow interpreted this to mean that the kid didn't respect me and was saying that my only purpose in life was to lust after boys.
Every time we argue, she exaagerates every conflict I've ever had with others to say what a detestable individual I am and that everybody hates me. She'll then talk about how likable she is, her evidence being her relationship with my aunt, her 2 massage therapists, and a few friends she had in her twenties.
She once accused me of trying to sexually arouse my dad and made many other statements about me. As a kid, I didn't know how to explain my feelings and could only hop up and down in tears shouting, 'That's not true!' to which she'd reply 'If it wasn't true, you wouldn't be so upset.'
22-25, F
