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I let people walk all over me throughout my existence

Ever since I was adopted that family was very abusive and carried into middle school and highschool. I got bullied so bad I never graduated , people would bully me for everything and anything . I had a girl send me a message saying she missed being friends but I grew angry because she sat next to me and never said anything when people would bother me . I never wrote her back. I want to make myself stronger in every way so this cycle doesn’t carry on . I won’t allow myself to be bullied anymore or laughed at.. it’s hard learning everything to make yourself not vulnerable.. any advice?
LilMissAnonyMOUSE · F Best Comment
The abusive treatment you got as a child from your adoptive family and in school was something you could not control and was not your fault. In this world there are good and bad people, that's just how it is. It's how you deal with them that defines the kind of person you are. Stand up for your rights because no one has the right to hurt you but don't break the law, you have to rise above it all and be the smart one in every situation . You must not let what they did to you affect your future, you are no longer their victim but a victor, because you will strive to be better and know you will never be like them.

Some people look away when someone is being bullied, or ganged up on, they don't want to be involved due to cowardice or lack of empathy.

Be your own best friend, do not indulge in self-sabotaging behavior, allow yourself to dream of a good future, and strive hard for it. Lastly, choose well the people who you want around you, people who shall contribute to your growth, success, and happiness. Good luck!😊
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@LilMissAnonyMOUSE this is so bad but refreshing to read thank you. I v been carrying this for a long time ,in my head it’s hard to move on from trauma. I will take your kind words and do better❤️
@Sneakylink34 I wish you the best that life has to offer.

Thank you for the best comment😊
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@LilMissAnonyMOUSE thank you same to you❤️❤️. Yes ofc you really brightened my day with your comment

Abstraction · 61-69, M
Respect yourself. That's where it starts. You don't put up with bad behaviour from people close to you - it [b]puts a value on yourself that others learn[/b]. It starts to change their behaviour. If a guy treats you badly you don't ignore it. Boundaries. You don't sulk or whine or rage - you simply make it clear, gently, quietly, that this isn't acceptable. He learns if he doesn't treat you as someone with value, you'll leave. It changes the way people treat you and the way you feel about yourself and that starts to shine through. All the women in my life including my daughter have this.
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@Abstraction iv learned that now being a 28 year old , I’m still learning boundaries. The abuse I went through it’s been so hard to understand everything all at once I’m just understanding now. I wish someone really taught me that
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@Abstraction I agree with everything that you said and I’m glad you said it , something to really think about
Try going into the self-development section of a bookshop and getting anything on the topic of boundaries.
Or you could scan online for titles by John Bradshaw - a reasonably good starting point.
It's a long journey but you can succeed.
Wiseacre · F
Seems to me u don't need our help. Just keep that in mind: I won't allow myself to be bullied or laughed at".
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@Wiseacre I did 😭😭😭😭
in10RjFox · M
Love is the only solution.. start showering love at random people and you will soon see yourself being loved and embraced. Move away from those who bully or dislike you..
Do it. Don't think about it, make it clear where you stand at all times.
beetlebumdont · 22-25, F
Let me bully them back for you
Sneakylink34 · 26-30, F
@beetlebumdont lmao yes
Zonuss · 41-45, M
Don't. Stand up for yourself.
Be bold.
Be straightforward.
Never allow yourself to be a doormat under any conditions.
Be blessed. 🙂
beefo · 26-30, M
I do the same. i never learned to set boundaries

 
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