I am a prude, but I am also asexual,so it makes being a prude easier...

I am asexual, and I have been for as long as I can remember. This made my childhood abuse even harder for me to endure. This abuse may have also cemented my being asexual. 🤔

I do have marital relations to please my Husband and for the purpose of procreation. I get a lot of pleasure, and I mean a lot of pleasure, from pleasing my Husband in this area. Nothing makes me feel more loved by him than blowing his mind in the bedroom.❤

I feel very little, physically, from the sex act, but I feel a real sense of achievement and purpose when I can take my Husband higher each and every time, making him realize he will never know all of me, for decades now. ❤

I feel an increase in my sense of security because if I please my Husband, he is less likely to leave me or look for someone else. I need this sense of security greatly. For this reason, we were married 35 years before my Husband knew I wasn't a "nympho," his words. Then we had a granddaughter who was asexual and misunderstood, so granny took the opportunity to let her truth be known too..🙂

It is just that the idea of having sex isn't a real consuming thing for me. I don't get turned on like others. I get excited every time my Husband wants to be with me because I know he loves and wants me. The act itself, with regards to how I feel physically during the act, is just something I do. Unless it is intense, that is a whole different thing.....It isn't that my Husband isn't skilled either, because he knows what he is doing. I have just always been this way. 🤷‍♀

So, I guess in the technical sense of the word, I am a prude, but I am not a judgmental prude. I realize that how I feel about sex isn't the norm. I think live and let live is the best way to be..🙂

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity.[1][2][3][4] It may be considered a sexual orientation or the lack thereof.[5][6][7] It may also be categorized more widely, to include a broad spectrum of asexual sub-identities.[8][9]

Asexuality is distinct from abstention from sexual activity and from celibacy,[10][11] which are behavioral and generally motivated by factors such as an individual's personal, social, or religious beliefs.[12] Sexual orientation, unlike sexual behavior, is believed to be "enduring".[13] Some asexual people engage in sexual activity despite lacking sexual attraction or a desire for sex, for a number of reasons, such as a desire to physically please themselves or romantic partners, or a desire to have children.[10][14]

Acceptance of asexuality as a sexual orientation and field of scientific research is still relatively new,[2][14] as a growing body of research from both sociological and psychological perspectives has begun to develop.[14] While some researchers assert that asexuality is a sexual orientation, other researchers disagree.[5][6] Asexual individuals may represent about one percent of the population.[2]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

Definition of the word prude

prude (pruːd)
n
a person who affects or shows an excessively modest, prim, or proper attitude, esp regarding sex

[C18: from French, from prude femme, from Old French prode femme respectable woman; see proud]

ˈprudish adj
ˈprudishly adv
ˈprudishness, ˈprudery n

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A prude (Old French prude meaning honorable woman) is a person who is described as (or would describe themselves as) being concerned with decorum or propriety, significantly in excess of normal prevailing standards. They may be perceived as being more uncomfortable than most with sexuality or nudity.

Another use of the word "prude" is as a label and an insult directed to anybody having reservations resulting from standards of modesty or even any moral standards and beliefs which are not shared by the one issuing the insult..

I have closed comments on this post for obvious reasons. This isn't something I want a back-and-forth about. It is just an observation I have about myself.

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