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I Always Get Asked Why Im So Quiet

I don't mind this question as much as I used to. It's a bad question, sure, and I can't provide an answer to it that does not make me feel awkward, but I recognize that many people simply don't know how to handle a quiet person. They think maybe they're doing something wrong to prevent that person from opening up. I can at least tolerate it more than the disheartening demand to "speak up".

I've been quiet my entire life. Introversion and shyness are not the same, but lucky me, I'm encumbered by both. My instinct is not to say something unless I have something relevant to contribute, and I often feel that I don't. I respond when people address me, but I often don't take the initiative.

I [i]can[/i] be talkative, but I have to be talking about something I'm interested in and with people I care about.
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Judemaixcx · 22-25, F
Literally me when I was in middle school. I went through major anxiety and I was just never speak to anyone. People would always ask why are you so quiet and honestly had no answer which made me question myself. Some would think something was wrong with me or something happened at home but everything was fine. I hated that I wasn’t outgoing like others or able to speak my mind. That’s just how I was. Had no one to sit with at lunch, no partner for a class project, no one to go to during embarrassing moments during school. Anyways I totally understand you, you are not alone
Keaten · 31-35, M
@Judemaixcx You [i]literally[/i] just described me! I never thought anyone else went through stuff like this. It's crazy because at the time, it seems like anything and everything is either happening to you and only you or it not happening to you and you're the only one missing out.
SW-User
@Judemaixcx I was like that in middle school. Never had a partner for projects. It was always horrible :(

Things changed in high school when I got myself a good group of close friends.
Judemaixcx · 22-25, F
@SW-User yes same thing happened to me. I actually stepped into freshman year with a fresh, open mindset. I made friends but was still pointed out for being very laid back and quiet so I guess that’s just how I am in general. But good for you, having friends is great