Do you apologize when you’re wrong?

@SW-User That’s tough. I try to sit my kids down if I realize I’m wrong b/c I want them to be able to do the same if they’re ever wrong. It can be hard for a single mom, so I can understand if she didn’t get to it easy.

@MellyMel22 she also has borderline personality disorder, so anything that can be turned into anything negative in her mind turns extremely negative and she takes it as "I wish you would die" rather than constructive or a joke.


The last time she took a comment so bad she threatened to off herself was last week when she was putting her appearance down like crazy, and I reminded her "we look identical, so everytime you talk bad about your appearance, you basically say I'm ugly too"


I said it as a joke, even tho it's true. She marriedy stepdad when I was 13, and even then qe looked so much alike that people congratulated me on the married for weeks after. I wish I was joking.

@SW-User I can tell you that I know someone that has that, and it is a very difficult person to be around! And even when things seem good, it’s turned around behind your back as if you were attacking them when you weren’t even arguing or disagreeing on anything. I definitely feel for you. I can’t imagine growing up with someone who had that. I’m not saying everyone that has it as a bad person, just that it’s hard to be around.

Well we’re all hard on ourselves and see diff than others! I hope things can get better for you both 🤍

@SW-User That is 100% my oldest son’s gf who has it. He’s in his late 20s and lives with my mom(he pays a portion of the mortgage and bills) and his gf was staying there too much and disrespecting my mom‘s house rules and she tried turning him against her and me. She even went as far as to tell him that her therapist said my mother is no good for her and that she needs to change her behavior. Her behavior being that she would correct her and tell her not to leave wet towels on the floor, to clean up after herself and not to use my mother’s new towels to dye her hair. She didn’t even live there and was taking 2 to 3 showers a day when she was there. She was told she can only go there three days a week and she was there 7 days, just wouldn’t leave. Then she’d leave w/ a handful of things from the fridge that was my mom’s. There was so much more, but those are just some examples. But my mother was the problem according to her and her supposed therapist. How dare my mother tell her I ask you not to do these things and you continue to do them. 🙄

A friend of the family is a psychiatrist and I was telling her that my son had told me she had BP and I assumed it was bipolar and when I explained some of these things to her, she said, I know you said she has bipolar, but she sounds like she has Borderline personality disorder. Sure enough I found out that’s what she had later! That’s how textbook she is of it.