I Am Willing to Apologize When I Have Wronged
I was told that I apologize too much.
36-40, F
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Wolfdancer · 56-60, F
Pause Before Apologising
Before saying sorry, stop and ask yourself this: “Have I actually done anything wrong here?”. If the answer is no, don’t apologize! The urge can be easier to resist if you ask this follow-up question: “If I didn’t do something wrong here, do I really want people to think I believe that I did?”
Express Compassion Differently
If you worry about sharing difficult emotions, note that there are other ways to show compassion and empathy. Instead of constantly apologizing in a relationship, say something like “I know that’s tough to hear” or “You can always tell me when you’re upset.”
Know Your Triggers
Do a quick brainstorming session and write down 10 things that make you want to apologize (e.g. bumping into a stranger, asking someone to do something for you). For each item, think of something you could say instead. Spend a week focusing on just one, trying to entirely eliminate “sorry” from that context.
Phrase Questions Carefully
There’s no need to over apologize when you need clarification, so don’t say sorry when you ask. Instead, experiment with questions like “Could you please say a bit more about that for me?” or “Can you please help me understand this better, maybe by using an example?”
Turn Apologies Into Gratitude
The next time you feel an apology rising up inside you, think of a way to rephrase it into a statement of gratitude. For example, “I’m sorry you had to run that errand” can easily become “I’m so grateful you did me this favor!”. Not only is this more pleasing to the hearer, but it focuses your mind on positivity and abundance—helping you attract more of the same.
I hope this helps you. Love & Light :)
Before saying sorry, stop and ask yourself this: “Have I actually done anything wrong here?”. If the answer is no, don’t apologize! The urge can be easier to resist if you ask this follow-up question: “If I didn’t do something wrong here, do I really want people to think I believe that I did?”
Express Compassion Differently
If you worry about sharing difficult emotions, note that there are other ways to show compassion and empathy. Instead of constantly apologizing in a relationship, say something like “I know that’s tough to hear” or “You can always tell me when you’re upset.”
Know Your Triggers
Do a quick brainstorming session and write down 10 things that make you want to apologize (e.g. bumping into a stranger, asking someone to do something for you). For each item, think of something you could say instead. Spend a week focusing on just one, trying to entirely eliminate “sorry” from that context.
Phrase Questions Carefully
There’s no need to over apologize when you need clarification, so don’t say sorry when you ask. Instead, experiment with questions like “Could you please say a bit more about that for me?” or “Can you please help me understand this better, maybe by using an example?”
Turn Apologies Into Gratitude
The next time you feel an apology rising up inside you, think of a way to rephrase it into a statement of gratitude. For example, “I’m sorry you had to run that errand” can easily become “I’m so grateful you did me this favor!”. Not only is this more pleasing to the hearer, but it focuses your mind on positivity and abundance—helping you attract more of the same.
I hope this helps you. Love & Light :)