why does the thought that i could be 'rejected' always ' wipe me out'

i've always found rejection from women i liked and interacted with devastating, i only interact with my own race white girls, but i've made that point enough.

anyway there's this pale redhead lady on my facebook friends who was a class mate back in primary school in the mid 80s, i always liked her and glad she's on my friends on facebook, anyhow, i was chatting to her on messenger earlier and she said ' can i phone you sometime? i find texting awkward and would love to hear your voice after so long'.

well, i was really over the moon by her suggesting that, really happy and i told her that and said it'd be nice to hear from her sometime by phone and gave her my landline and mobile number, it was late, so i replied back to her at midnight and i think she'd gone to bed by then, so i left her that reply then logged out.

but i felt so excited and happy at her suggestion, but also nervous at the thought of speaking to a lady because it's been so long since i did? but i also thought that i'd feel really devastated if she never ended up phoning me after she suggested it and i gave her my numbers?.....i would feel really rejected and disappointed, as she is someone i really like and always liked.

any thoughts?

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ImperialAerosolKidFromEP · 51-55, M

I hear ya. If it was me, I'd probably try to be less optimistic about the near future. Don't expect you'll be anything more than friends and accept you won't even be that for very long. Being to eager would be a turnoff and set you up for disappointment

durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M

@ImperialAerosolKidFromEP well, i get what you're saying, being too eager and stuff, which i'm aware i've got to curb because yes it does scare women off, i know that from my past....but i'd like to be a little more optimistic about keeping a friendship with her if i can, but saying that a lot of women can be fickle and they can be here today and gone tomorrow, and you never hear again, so i got what you meant there.

ImperialAerosolKidFromEP · 51-55, M

@durinsBane1983 yeah, I know that too. I think my problem is my chemistry combination. There's something about it where the women I'm likely to attract will somehow find me a disappointment later.