how do you face and get over rejection and the fear of it
i've always took rejection to heart, i've always been sensitive and trust me, i have been rejected by women a lot in my life, mainly because i've had mental health problems to deal with, and never learned the social skills on how to talk to them, i had mental health problems right from a young age, since age 16 and i'm in my late 40s now, so a long time.
to get to the point, there's this older woman who i've had on my facebook friends list for years and years.....i used to message her years back in the private messages, just friendly chat and she was always receptive towards me and always responded....she's in her mid 50s, i'm in my late 40s....anyway i just stopped PMing her, because i ran out of things to say or talk about, but i think she knows i like her.
in recent weeks on facebook, i have regularly left a like on her facebook posts, because she posts things similar to the subjects i post about and just the other day i posted a comment on her post, she responded like always, i then wished her a happy xmas for the weeks ahead and left a ' x ', she wished me the same and left me a kiss ' x '.
then, i posted and asked her ' thanks for the wishes, also is it ok if i send you a message in messenger sometime? ' - and i got a reply from her in response to that question, but i'm afraid to check her reply in case it's a knock back, or a 'no' or a decline of that request of some kind?
i know it comes down to the fear of rejection i've always had and accepting the disappointment of being rejected, especially as this is a woman i like........so how can i face it and deal with it???
to get to the point, there's this older woman who i've had on my facebook friends list for years and years.....i used to message her years back in the private messages, just friendly chat and she was always receptive towards me and always responded....she's in her mid 50s, i'm in my late 40s....anyway i just stopped PMing her, because i ran out of things to say or talk about, but i think she knows i like her.
in recent weeks on facebook, i have regularly left a like on her facebook posts, because she posts things similar to the subjects i post about and just the other day i posted a comment on her post, she responded like always, i then wished her a happy xmas for the weeks ahead and left a ' x ', she wished me the same and left me a kiss ' x '.
then, i posted and asked her ' thanks for the wishes, also is it ok if i send you a message in messenger sometime? ' - and i got a reply from her in response to that question, but i'm afraid to check her reply in case it's a knock back, or a 'no' or a decline of that request of some kind?
i know it comes down to the fear of rejection i've always had and accepting the disappointment of being rejected, especially as this is a woman i like........so how can i face it and deal with it???
46-50, M
