I was ghosted 😢

I had crush on a younger guy 2 years ago. It's a long story but i put it short. He felt that i liked him and we exchanged gazes. I was excited seeing him among friends. But one day he suddenly disappeared. He stopped coming to friends meeting. I was upset and couldn't understand what happened. From time to time i heard from friends about him. I send him birthday card and he wrote me little thanks with sms. I wrote him "never mind" but he didn't follow conversation through. Then after 2 years I finally saw him on vacation with friends. We spend some days together, met and went to restaurants and the beach. He seemed polite and friendly. I decided to reach out to him online after vacation because my feelings for him resurfaced. He answered and we've been chatting about dishes and vacation we've been together. But soon i realized he gives only one word replies and did not show interest back. I pursued anyway. I send him cute valentines card and he only said "thank you", not sending me anything back. I started panic because i felt that he didn't like me back but our gazes and flirty looks in person told me otherwise. Then i asked him for a picture of him he said "ok" but didn't send any. After that he ghosted me. I reached out more times asking why he didn't write back but got no answer. Then i gave up. Four months passed. I didn't hear a word from him. Through mutual friend i tried to ask how he was doing and if he wanted contact again, she said he's OK with it. I reached out to him again asking if we can be friends again but he only said "ok" as usual and ghosted me. I got not only frustrated but angry and started lashing out at mutual friends telling them what an arrogant guy my crush was. They didn't want to believe me. Even as i was talking bad behind his back he still didn't reply. Now i calmed down and accepted situation.

Don't let ghosting get you down, speak up to family, friends and try to confront your ghoster. You don't deserve that kind of emotional abuse. Speak up to people and don't be silent 👊‼‼‼

SomeMichGuy · M

He felt that i liked him and we exchanged gazes.

How do you know that he was aware that you liked him?

I think your opening line says a lot:

I had crush on a younger guy 2 years ago.

(Emphasis added.)

If you re-read it with THAT in mind, it seems a lot less "obvious" that he was EVER "into you".

On that vacation, he probably didn't mind having an activity partner, but we don't know any of this from his side, do we?

I think confronting him for ghosting you could lead to you really embarrassing yourself. For interest, what if he were to say yes, you seemed to stare at him, which made him feel uncomfortable (and why he stopped going to the meetings of the "friends"), then he was suddenly with you on vacation...so he tried to be polite, but just talked about dishes and vacation...and you still tried to turn it into something, etc.