How do you know that he was aware that you liked him?
I think your opening line says a lot:
I had crush on a younger guy 2 years ago.
(Emphasis added.)
If you re-read it with THAT in mind, it seems a lot less "obvious" that he was EVER "into you".
On that vacation, he probably didn't mind having an activity partner, but we don't know any of this from his side, do we?
I think confronting him for ghosting you could lead to you really embarrassing yourself. For interest, what if he were to say yes, you seemed to stare at him, which made him feel uncomfortable (and why he stopped going to the meetings of the "friends"), then he was suddenly with you on vacation...so he tried to be polite, but just talked about dishes and vacation...and you still tried to turn it into something, etc.
Assuming you’re the age displayed, how much younger was the guy?
Also, just from any interaction one word replies usually mean not interested. They got bored one day needed to talk to someone for that time, for that day, got what they needed and moved on. A lot of times, or at least communication is sporadic but still it’s a sign to move on. This wouldn’t be different but depending on your first response… ??
The flirty gazes (as you call it) were likely because you kept looking at him. I’ve been caught doing that before. Guys like it if you’re pretty but without any connection it gets boring.
Perhaps you need to take a hint and leave him alone.. did you actually date or did he just look at you once? You might be taking things too far and he’s not interested.. personally i don't think a lady should chase younger guys but that’s just my opinion
I've been ghosted, and I've ghosted myself... Not all relationships are healthy, and some need to end.. Once you realize you've been ghosted, let goooooooo!!! For a broken heart is better than a hundred kisses from the enemy!!
Honestly I would have given up after he stopped showing up with friends, and especially after you sent the card and got barely a reply. That should have been the end of it. Sorry you went thru that:/
The gonads of males produce 14 times more libidinous hormones than those of females of the same age, and for both sexes 1% less each year. Some men are compulsive flirts: it means nothing. Some men are sex addicts and it still means nothing.
So if the man isn't actively seeking the woman's company as a whole person, that's always an automatic no.
@hartfire Most modern males now have much more lower testosterone than males of our ages, I blame the phytoestrogens in soy and other nut "milks" they drink in their chai lattes from starbucks, and yes, it's a real thing...
@NativePortlander1970 An interesting reality. I've always thought males suffer a great deal from the intensity of their unfulfilled desires. Maybe the trend in choosing to drink substances that reduce fertility and libido is an unconsious way of finding relief.
Sounds to me he prefers guys, I wouldn't waste any more time. In my mid 20's I fell hard for a younger woman, but she was always saying why wasn't Jack paying her any notice? Turned out Jack was really Jaqueline, who was into guys, the woman I liked was into other women.
@NativePortlander1970 yes his reactions are not normal for a healthy young man, maybe he's emotionally closed off, narcissistic or has other disorders because Noone replied ever with one word to me
