other people are too confusing

Aghhh its been on my mind lately, just how many differences people can have? An example could be this site, it's got teens, young adults and even kiddos but at the same time there are people who are older than 50 or even 60.. it actually makes me kinda embarrassed to post some things because i think to myself "imagine a bunch of people way older than you read your post and totally dont relate or dont understand where you're coming from".. its not just about age, of course, what im talking about is people not being on same wave lenghts. Just the way people of same age can be drastically different in terms of personality and beliefs. So it brings me to my question, how do you make friends (online mostly) if most people are wildly incompatible with your personality?? Ok right, lets say i meet someone who uses pet names for friends and overshares and that stuff while im the complete opposite,,, how do you have conversations with that person? especially when u already befriend them you cant just go like "um im sorry but your lack of knowledgability in things i like makes this friendship impossible"..?!# i find that there's two types of people.. 1. people who exclusively interact with people who have a similar communication style and interests and 2. people who interact with both but find those different than them interesting.... i would say most people are 1., they want people who match their energy and understand them but its so hard to be a friend to type 1. as someone who isnt quite like them... idk anymore, its just hard to find people with a specific mix of personality traits that doesnt make you feel like you're doing something wrong when interacting with them..? idk i need opinions fr

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DerSilberneKonig1 · 22-25, M

best advice i can give is don't over think, if you're looking for a specifc type of person to make a friend, it's just not gonna work. General rule of thumb for people is that boundaries are usually set when either of them come across something they don't like, and whether or not they respect it is gonna be what allows those two individuals to become friends.

As for age, it doesn't really matter. We've all done stupid and embarrassing shit. and honestly if anyone who's nearin the end of the natural lifespan is shitting on you for it, jsut remember the longer someone is alive, means that they have had far more opportunities to do stupid shit than you have, and most likely did. Ntm, if you're a child, teenager or young adult, you're bound to do something stupid or embarrassing regardless because of inexperience. If people can't recognize that, best to avoid them, because that's well beyond simple.

Now, as for being different? It really just depends on the differences themselves, Lets say one of you likes music and the other likes sports, one of you wants to go to a concert and the other wants to go to a game, you don't have to like one of them, but if you care about that friend, you should at least consider going with them. If you can only go to one and you have to pick, then it's best to talk about it, which ones cheaper, which ones closest, how many of you are going and so on. And then just rotate it the next time you guys get a chance. The whole point of a friendship isn't to have someone at your beck and call 24/7 it's someone who will be with you through hard times, thick and thin, essentially like a relationship, just without the feelings/sexual aspect. You are bound to have disagreements, arguments, fights and over all uncomofrtable situations. And sometimes it seems like you might make good friends, and then things happen and you're no longer friends. And that's okay.

If you're worried about doing something wrong, then talk to them about it, ask them to tell you when say or do something they don't want you to (within reason)

and i'd say most importantly, don't force it. Just let it happen, people are gonna value space and privacy above else. Playing a game, making a joke, or starting a conversation about a particular topic are usually the main ways of making friends IME.

sotoninsin · 16-17

@DerSilberneKonig1 i dont know, i feel like only people who are just like me would even give me a chance at friendship, i guess i dont really act/think like most people my age,, whatever!! Thank you for replying though, you're right. I'll try to follow your advice ^^

DerSilberneKonig1 · 22-25, M

@sotoninsin Take any advice any person gives you with a grain of salt though, including your family. There is no right or wrong when it comes to trying new things, and people who don't value you, for who you are? fuck em, they probably arent worth your time anyway.

If you're in your later teenage years, then yeah i'd say this line of thinking is probably a little more mature for most, but it's not bad, just try not to over think, it'll land you in a sitatuon thats probably gonna hurt, take things one day at a time

Any time 😂

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

OK, from an old boy's perspective, you have to stop looking for 'friends' on the internet.
Because on the internet people can be whoever they want to appear to be !
Whatever their age !

Friends are made in the real world !
People you can see when you ask a question and get a better sense of whether they're genuine or lying to you.
Trying to do that online is impossible.

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