Seeking genuine advice or guidance

Recently my husband and I have stepped into a bit of a new world. Primarily around his desire for me to be with other men.

I was with a guy he introduced me to from his gym and the thought or idea of adding another guy to join me and the guy from my husband’s gym to play together sometime

While no real plans have been established since the topic came up I wanted to learn from others who have participated in a threesome. I’m not sure this will happen for certain but I figured it could be good to better understand something like this before fully considering.

Sorry for the bit of a rambling message and would appreciate any advice. And please reserve your judgment, I’ve already received some for being with another man at my husband’s desire

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CarlaMommy · 41-45

I've seen this many times! The husband has a fantasy of getting into the swing life. The failure rate is high! The husband or bf sees his woman getting into it, often in a very high state of arousal due to the situation, and he ends up crashing! I've seen grown men sit in the corner an emotional wreck! I've seen them run out of the room and break down crying! Even drag their wifes away from the situation that they didn't want, but we're enjoying. I'd say more than half the time it turns into an emotional mess.

My ex husband and I were in the life for about 10 years.

pdockal · 56-60, M

@CarlaMommy

Did hubby ever participate ?????

VeronicaJane

@CarlaMommy ex husband?

CarlaMommy · 41-45

@VeronicaJane Yes.

VeronicaJane

@CarlaMommy well said. Men's fantasies rarely seem to match the reality. The woman gets into it, high state of arousal, maybe other man is better endowed, or a better lover. Woman very aroused and carnal. Maybe more so than with her man. Man's ego bruised or hurt feelings. That road littered with broken relationships and divorces.

VeronicaJane

@CarlaMommy if I might ask, ex as in result of being in the life?

CarlaMommy · 41-45

@VeronicaJane No, he just woke up one day and lost all interest in being married, having sex, living with his wife and two children. He lost all his interest in life. He turned 40 and hit the wall we hear so much about with women.

VeronicaJane

@CarlaMommy that must have been quite a shock for you, and I imagine hard on the kids. We may hear about women turning 40 and 'hitting the wall', but equal opportunity for men doesn't make it right. Hope you are coping and doing well in the aftermath.

CarlaMommy · 41-45

@VeronicaJane everything is very good! I'm very lucky.