Seeking genuine advice or guidance

Recently my husband and I have stepped into a bit of a new world. Primarily around his desire for me to be with other men.

I was with a guy he introduced me to from his gym and the thought or idea of adding another guy to join me and the guy from my husband’s gym to play together sometime

While no real plans have been established since the topic came up I wanted to learn from others who have participated in a threesome. I’m not sure this will happen for certain but I figured it could be good to better understand something like this before fully considering.

Sorry for the bit of a rambling message and would appreciate any advice. And please reserve your judgment, I’ve already received some for being with another man at my husband’s desire

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PoetryNEmotion · F

Often the idea of having more than one partner in a marriage sounds great. Until it is done. Often the husband learns that his wife enjoys it far more than he could ever imagine. You may just want a swinger's lifestyle. Multiple partners. Some basic online research can get you the answers you seek. I do not have a good article handy. Some may include what can I do if I develop feelings for one of my partners? How can I or my spouse deal with jealousy? How often should we communicate about this to each other? Once a week? Only when needed? How do I prevent STDs? Does my partner have the option of saying I cannot have sex with someone I choose? How do we want to treat this exactly as something hidden from our family and friends and work or are we going to be open if asked? So many questions. People will judge you. Going outside your main relationship is not what society supports. Are you getting enough satisfying sex with your spouse? Is this an attempt to "fix" marital problems?

SatinPetals · 36-40, F

@PoetryNEmotion thank you. A lot of those questions and conversations we have had and will continue to have to ensure we are always on the same page.

I don’t think we’d say this was to fix marital problems. We have a wonderful marriage, it’s just a bedroom / intimacy thing that he approached me about a while back. I definitely understand it is not ‘mainstream’ and I know I’ll be judged, I just ask that people reserve their judgment on this thread. I’ve heard it before, I get it, I don’t need more of it

PoetryNEmotion · F

@SatinPetals You can ask, but people are entitled to their opinions. You are not mainstream; therefore, people will have strong opinions. Perhaps you also have a higher sex drive. Lits of men do not and this is another reason why they encourage additional partners. Just be safe. Ask questions. Maintain open communication. Have fun.

SatinPetals · 36-40, F

@PoetryNEmotion fair point and thank you again!!

VeronicaJane

@PoetryNEmotion great points! Nicely said. :-)