I Am Still Spanked

I don't understand parents who still spank their adult (or eve teenage) children.

Sure, I was spanked, and quite often, as a kid. But my Mom stopped when I was 11 or 12. Very few us weren't. When does spanking stop and turn into beating? Kids are more social than adults are. You may administer the spanking/beating where the "reason" strikes you. But YOU don't have to answer for the taunting received from friends, or explain why you can't sit comfortably in school or in church, or have the other kids ask to "see what you got.

This is bad enough as a kid. But these adults now? 33...45...50...

Let's us a little common sense and restraint, shall we? Once a person is old enough to reach the "age of reason" (whenever that is)it makes more sense to TALK to him or her and put that paddle away.

Don't think I never saw teens or adult spankings. The alcoholic who lived next door took his belt to his kids more often than necessary. I went to high school with a girl who had a murderous bruise on her knee from her father's belt (we were both 17).I had friends who were bitter about still being spanked - at their age.

And for those of you who think me wrong - save your electricity. My Mom knew what she was doing when she put the paddle away for good. She never had to answer the door from the police bringing us home, or get us out of jail...

And she raised four of us.

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beckychandler · F

("The Ryatts" syndicated Sunday comic strip)

My Mom used to say that spanking was a childish punishment and I would be too old for a spanking when I quit acting like a child. For me they tapered off dramatically when I was 12, but I was well aware that Mom's hairbrush had not been retired and occasionally she got it out of the drawer. I got my very last spanking as a high school Freshman – and well deserved it was! The possibility of a spanking even lingered with me when I went away to college . I can not imagine compliantly bending over and dropping my drawers to be whacked by my Mom ( or Mom demanding that I do so) at that age – but her hairbrush was still alive in the back of my mind and surely had some influence on my early adult decision making.

My oldest is now thirteen, so I have added Mom's rationale to my parental repertoire. She knows that my paddle has not been retired, and if she slips into some childish misbehavior a childish bare bottom paddling is a very real possibility. I hope, like it did with me, in a moment of temptation that possibility will act as a brake, and give her still developing moral reason an opportunity to kick in.

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chrisCA · M

@beckychandler: The threat of getting the belt was enough to keep me inline.

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MaryJanine · 70-79, F

You have the right to your opinions - as do I. No one said you couldn't speak your mind. I also have the right to speak my thoughts and ideas. We ALL do here. But, in discussing religion, aren't we off the subject matter, anyway?

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MaryJanine · 70-79, F

Well, I am too - but I don't go around SAYING it or dipping my theories of ANY reply on these posts in my religion.

MasterLee · 56-60, M

Might post this in a different group

LikeMind · M

Agreed, I think a lot of the spanking posts on here are sheer fantasy, or embellished memories.
If you were beaten, it hurt then, the memory would still hurt now.
My experience is the cane across the hand, and a slipper across the backside, both from school teachers. The slipper was the worse of the two, god how I hated that man, just the once thankfully.

MaryJanine · 70-79, F

We have no way of telling. But I think any adult child is WAY too old to get the 3-year old treatment.

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MaryJanine · 70-79, F

I "lucked out", I think. My mother and father never spanked us unless we really had it coming, but after a certain age they put their paddle (figuratively speaking for my Dad) away, figuring we were old enough to be talked to rather than spanked automatically. For us, that was between 11 and 12. They trusted us to be truthful, and we repaid them with respect and never in trouble with the police or the neighbors. Not all parents treat their children the same, but if you abide by their rules while living at home, your parents will spank less and less often and begin to treat you like an adult. That is one of the best feelings in the entire world.

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MaryJanine · 70-79, F

My father was an alcoholic for my first twenty years. He was drunk all night, every-single=night, but the one time he spanked me (the only time) it was on the bare bottom with his hand - and it was a misunderstood incident (I was only six and was waiting for him to go out of the kitchen and away from the table. My pajama bottoms were on the floor in the bathroom, and I couldn't pass him without getting spanked for being half-naked. I was waiting in the shadows for him to leave, he happened to see me - and, that was ALL, brother! He was a construction worker at the time and his hands were large and they were hard and calloused as well. He never asked questions, and never apologized either, but - that was the one and only time.

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MaryJanine · 70-79, F

Danke, kleiner Bruder. I appreciate your support.

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MaryJanine · 70-79, F

That's my theory. That's why = my parents believe in spanking, but Mom put away her paddle once each of us turned 11 or 12, and I was glad of it. I only saw it resurrected once, when my stepsister (older) was 16 - she missed curfew and the, when Mom asked her where she'd been and who with, changed her story four times in as many minutes. None of the answers made senses, though Mom gave her a chance to explain. All she gave Mom was backtalk and lies - which Mom didn't take from ANY of us. After that, we never saw it again.

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