Does anyone who spanks or gets spanked have a ritual for when a spanking is given?

it depends on the age and the issues... As a disciplinarian, i typically forgo the over the lap / hand spanking, unless that is part of why they come to me, to relive that process of apologizing, and then going over the lap to bring back memories that they thought were buried, but need more attention.

But i get folks who found that the reactions from spanking earlier in life manifested to needs and desires later on, and many times those folks find, if they share those memories and needs to a current BF or spouse, they are considered weird.. Spanking is still viewed by many as abuse, kink or BSDM... Few understand the basics of the needs of a spanko.. The cleansing, the forgiveness, the need for accountability, and then being told they are good.

So, for most, it is truly about the accountability, so there is the mix of verbal, exposure, and then the choice of a paddle, leather strap or rod.. But always there is the process of them having to explain why there need punishment, asking for it, and then after, when the tears stop, to have corner time or such to reflect..