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How many times a week should a couple have sex?

Poll - Total Votes: 42

Once a week

2-3 times a week

3-5 times a week

Everyday

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I’m asking because for the first few months in my relationship, he was away for weeks at a time for work
And we would only see each other a few times a month.

Now that he’s been working local, he goes out of his way to have sex
Me personally, I think it’s perfectly normal to do it a few times a week but he’s been wanting it like everyday and I’m like damn papi chill 😅

It also shouldn’t be something that’s planned or expected every night, there has to be a build up to it in order to make it feel special ☺ idk that’s just me, I’m curious to hear what you guys think.

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WeenieHut · 41-45, M

I’m 41, been married for 17 yrs. Lucky to get one a month 🤷‍♂

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Hatt94 · 56-60, M

@Ashly doesn't always work

WeenieHut · 41-45, M

@Hatt94 nothing more frustrating than jerkin off, minus 350 bucks

Coldplay · 61-69, M

@WeenieHut Hell you are getting a lot more than me! 1xmonth would be a flood of activity.

MartikaDuponte1 · 36-40, F

In my late 30's. Me and my husband have been together in some way shape or form for over 20 years. We do it daily. I have a very high sex drive.

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Elessar · 26-30, M

There's no definitive answer, it varies from couple to couple, age, how much BS life is throwing at you in a given moment, etc.

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Elessar · 26-30, M

@Ashly Yeah. Also, follow me for more advice on how to become a monk 🧘🏻‍♂🥴

Ashly · 26-30, F

@Elessar what?? lol 😂

I was close to joining the convent a few years ago 💀 can you imagine that?

Wondercpl · 41-45, C

@Elessar Age and family life also effects

Pfuzylogic · M

From personal experience while married, 3 times a week was minimum. That said she didn’t ever miss her time for conception for 4 children except for the last one when I wore a condom for the only time in my life.
I think that the arousal from foreplay must be natural and not feel forced.
Edit: Make sure your roomie hears you moan and scream! You owe her a couple! 😅

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Pfuzylogic · M

@Ashly She might be jelly. I’m sure her routine isn’t as frantic!

Ashly · 26-30, F

@Pfuzylogic I’d rather not think about that 😂

Pfuzylogic · M

@Ashly My bad! I was trying for comedy relief.
If you aren’t getting hurt or dry, enjoy! ❤ will find a way.

MrBlueGuy

I'm not sure if there's an exact number but I remember overhearing a friend of a friend say her and her bf had to do it at least 8 times a day.....I don't even know what would be left after that.

Ashly · 26-30, F

@MrBlueGuy that’s alarming… 😅

vetguy1991 · 51-55, M

As often as they want to

Ashly · 26-30, F

@vetguy1991 depends on the couple of course
Some people love that physical connection

vetguy1991 · 51-55, M

@Ashly true

Hatt94 · 56-60, M

@Ashly it can be difficult when only one of the parties wants that physical connection

thepreposterouspanda · 36-40, M

I dunno. More than I'm having it mine though. Maybe twice a month if I'm lucky?

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thepreposterouspanda · 36-40, M

@Ashly It's unfortunately just what it is at this point. It's all just been too much for too long and I don't really care anymore.

Like, I can walk and stuff now, I'm in good shape. It's just too late.

Ashly · 26-30, F

@thepreposterouspanda the road to recovery is never an easy one ☹
I’m still hurt and I’m already complaining about mine 😭 idk how you do it 😕

thepreposterouspanda · 36-40, M

@Ashly I'm just never going to recover, ya know? This isn't going away and I don't know how to feel about anything anymore because it all just hurts.

I can't enjoy anything and haven't been able in so long that it all just feels pointless.

Yayyyy lifelong depression and anxiety and parents making you feel worthless!

RSquared · 61-69, M

I would say when I was at your age group I was having sex on average 3-4 times per week. As time went on, that average decreased.

Ashly · 26-30, F

@RSquared any particular reason why it decreased?

RSquared · 61-69, M

@Ashly I can't give you a particular reason other than life in general. Kids come along and they suddenly have time consuming and energy draining needs. Then they are in sports and other functions. Then getting married and bringing around grandchildren. Suddenly menopause comes along. It's always something after the honeymoon phase wears off.

Ashly · 26-30, F

@RSquared I understand, it’s not just one specific thing
Life gets in the way unfortunately 😕 I hope you get it in at least every now and then 👍🏻

Kiesel · 56-60, M

I think 2-3 is the perfect balance… imo

Had a season of nothing for 4 years.

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Kiesel · 56-60, M

@Ashly your “papi chill” comment cracked me the frick up!!!

And thank you. All better nowadays. lol

Ashly · 26-30, F

@Kiesel yea he needs to relax lol Better days will come 😁

Kiesel · 56-60, M

@Ashly *checks spelling of certain word* 🤭

Turtlepower · 36-40, M

Few times a week is my preference these days. My wife wants everyday lol. I'm one of the lucky ones I guess but it goes through changes for her drive.

Ashly · 26-30, F

@Turtlepower that’s good, and it changes too
Maybe you’ll be in the mood to do it more often this holiday season 👍🏻

Hatt94 · 56-60, M

2-3x a week would be great.
Not expected, like every night. Sometimes spontaneous is very hot.

Ashly · 26-30, F

@Hatt94 that’s what I think,
Every night is exhausting, and I think it should be spontaneous

Hatt94 · 56-60, M

@Ashly I agree with you.
Join him in the shower one morning. Then he should be good for a couple days.

Ashly · 26-30, F

@Hatt94 there’s times when I initiate it, but it’s usually him that gets things started 🤭

Stygian · 26-30, M

With my ex we used to have sex everyday .. we never planned it, it would just happen in random places.

With my current its very rare.. we're not compatable.

NerdyPotato · M

It depends on how often both people are in the mood at the same time and if circumstances allow it in those moments. 🤷

Ashly · 26-30, F

@NerdyPotato that’s true 🥔
There’s multiple factors that determine whether it’s gonna happen

dumasme · 51-55, M

I say 2-3 but, clearly, i'm wrong.

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dumasme · 51-55, M

@Ashly That's what I WANT but, it's been over a year now... so, I'm thinking i may look elsewhere

Ashly · 26-30, F

@dumasme have a serious discussion with her, cheating is never an option

dumasme · 51-55, M

@Ashly done, to no avail. And, I just don't want to have sex with someone who isn't interested in it (or me). At least an escort 'acts' like she's enjoying it.

Coldplay · 61-69, M

Every day may be a bit pushy. But a few times a week would be a dream come true.

dsrice10 · 56-60, M

I would say 2-3 times a week.

Gumbodidlo · C

My wife, 3 to 4 times, me twice if I'm home in time 🤔

Ashly · 26-30, F

@Gumbodidlo wait what??

Gumbodidlo · C

@Ashly 😁😉

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

Depends on the couples sex drive.
I personally have a high sex deive, so it's usually multiple times a day if I'm in a relationship.

Ashly · 26-30, F

@basilfawlty89 damn lol
I mean If you both have a high sex drive then enjoy yourselves you two 👍🏻

Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M

😂 he’s on demon time it seems like

Ashly · 26-30, F

@Moneyonmymind wtf 😂 lol

Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M

@Ashly 😂🤷🏾‍♂ what it’s true, if you tell him what I said he will agree I think!

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