Sexting with other people while in a relationship.

@Turtlepower I agree with you 💯. Clear boundaries are huge in this.

@JustGoneNow Definitely. Whenever I engage, which is pretty rare these days, I always tell people I'm married and not looking to change my situation. Additionally, I don't neglect my partner in favor of sexting.

@Turtlepower that’s the real deal right there. I was kinda scared to talk about this but you sharing has made me a bit braver. My wife knows I’m on here, she knows occasionally I sext with a few people I know super well, know the deal, and won’t hurt me or us. She does not care… as long as it never spills into real life. I have one friend… I’ve known her for almost five years. The first almost year I was here (and single,) but she was really trying to get to know me and I knew she had a girlfriend, so I pushed that away super hard. What I didn’t know (and wasn’t real knowledgeable about) was that her girlfriend and her were in a kind of a don’t ask don’t tell kind of open relationship. Don’t know that would have made a big difference to me… but I get the nuance. Fast forward a few months. I become friends but no sexual nothing with her and a few months later her relationship implodes and we are both single. We are friends and have talked a lot and have realized that we would be horrible together as a couple. We are both far too insecure and both have some psych issues. We both need someone stable. While we were both single we sexted around and when I went on my first date with my now wife… she was my biggest cheerleader. She’s been with me through all of it, as we became a couple and even got engaged and now married. She asked at each point, if we could still have fun because it meets a need for her but she has no desire to ever be anything more than my very best friend. I asked my wife at each point and she doesn’t care because she knows I totally love her intimately and it basically just gets me all worked up for her anyways, so she ultimately benefits from it. I’d never trade a second of my time with her for the sexting. My friend and I both know this. We have fun when we can and there are sometimes days between our replies when we do because we both get caught up in real life. Within the last year she has started to date and get serious with this girl that is so perfect for her. I could cry because this girl gets my friend like I do but can be there as her life partner and I just adore her for loving my friend like she deserves. I’ve helped her when she struggles with the relationship (she has trouble communicating when she struggles but her girl and her have worked through a bunch of stuff and are going real strong.) Helped her pick out gifts and different mile stones (I’m so excited for her to give her the ring she picked out for their one year.) I would never want to hurt their relationship and always ask (same as she did,) if she’s okay doing what we do.. and she says her girl just likes how worked up it gets and keeps her for their time together. We do role play (because she’s like a little more than ten years younger than me,) where she’s a college student and I’m her professor and then we sext what would happen. It’s hot but just fun fantasy. So that’s why I think this question is way more complicated than a yes or no. Both our significant others know… it’s not a physical thing… and we have put in this level of fantasy where it’s more like interactive word porn, but I feel like it’s safe for us… her and me. She’s my very best friend… both on and offline. And I love her too pieces, just not like I do my wife.

@Turtlepower sorry so long. lol

@Turtlepower if it’s TLDR, I get it. I just didn’t know how to make it shorter.

@JustGoneNow no no. I just went to bed. I'll be reading it shortly :)

@JustGoneNow Thanks for sharing that. Definitely not too long of a read :) It's a very complicated answer indeed and to do in a way that isn't cheating requires proper communication and boundaries like in your scenario. I find it to be interactive word porn with friends essentially.

@Turtlepower 🖤