My sexuality

I’m trying to explore my sexuality. I’ve kissed both men and woman but I have mainly been attracted sexually to woman. I find men very attractive at times but it’s hard to picture sexual things with most. I could see myself giving a hj or bj to very specific people but sex is another thing. Maybe I haven’t explored enough, maybe I’m very picky? What do you guys think? Please be nice😁

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Diotrephes · 70-79, M

@Ridergood234 A lot of the uncertainty is most likely age related. I doubt a man who is in the 31-35 age range could be confused as to his preferences. A teen or young adult might be attracted to a guy more than to a woman because it might seem that he has more in common with a guy than with a woman. After all, they can go on adventures together and share the same interests without all of the drama that happens in a heterosexual relationship. But, over time, the guy could find a heterosexual relationship more desirable and satisfying.

As you experience more personal relationships with people you will eventually find one that will meet most of your needs. And when that day arrives, be happy for yourself that you have finally found someone you can freely love and who loves you in return.

If you got sick and were dying, would that person be there for you and give you aid and comfort? If you had financial troubles would that person help you to recover? And would you do the same things for that person? Those are some of the things that really matter in relationships.

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LustControl · M

@Diotrephes I wonder how many people have a series of different relationships over a lifetime. Some with a different gender. How many later in life experience a sexual event with the same sex. Especially among those that fall into the bi range. It would be interesting to read a study.

While a younger person maybe more confused by some attraction to both sexes, men especially feel the need to reject those desires during mid life. Then from what I have read, often later in life is once again willing to explore.

Plenty of variables. No two lives are exactly the same. Plus the under 30 are less likely to feel the stigma of same sex experiences. Maybe see sex as an activity they can enjoy with a variety of people without it defining them as straight or gay.

Some that lose a spouse by divorce or death may share living arrangements with someone of the same gender. May or may not include a sexual element. But may include the needed support during illness or life’s negative times.