Domestic discipline
Talking to lots of people about how DD works for them I realise how different we all are. What is appropriate discipline for one person seems really harsh and over the top for another.
I thought Id start a post on how it works for us and we can chip in, maybe we will learn something.
My husband and I have a moving contract of sorts. It's a structured agreement about what I get spanked for and it's reviewed periodically as and when we think it's needed.
What I get spanked for:
1)Disrespect, 2)Swearing, 3)Over spending, 4)Not taking care of health or safety.
It's a hard spanking with a leather or wooden paddle and then six or eight with his belt. In addition I might get non spanking discipline such as capsaicin cream applied to my bottom or made to wear a large butt plug for a long while. This is 100% consensual and although I don't like it at the time. I feel it calms me and keeps our marriage healthy and me in a submissive mindset. I also have other rules I'm expected to follow such as not brushing my hair out without him present (he likes to watch) also to wear finger and toenail polish and eat lunch although I don't get spanked for those.
In addition my husband can also choose to spank me for emotional release or as a reward for good behaviour. They are longer and lighter than a discipline spanking and the wooden paddle or belt are never used. It's what happens when I'm very stressed or hormonal. I can ask for that if I need to and that is preferable to letting poor habits sneak in.
My husband also has rules.
1) Never spank in anger 2) listen and try to be understanding 3) take care of issues in a reasonable time 4) be responsible for health and well being or us both.
So that's our contract. It's quite simple and straightforward. What does DD look like for you or what would you hope it to be like if you think this would benefit your relationship?
I thought Id start a post on how it works for us and we can chip in, maybe we will learn something.
My husband and I have a moving contract of sorts. It's a structured agreement about what I get spanked for and it's reviewed periodically as and when we think it's needed.
What I get spanked for:
1)Disrespect, 2)Swearing, 3)Over spending, 4)Not taking care of health or safety.
It's a hard spanking with a leather or wooden paddle and then six or eight with his belt. In addition I might get non spanking discipline such as capsaicin cream applied to my bottom or made to wear a large butt plug for a long while. This is 100% consensual and although I don't like it at the time. I feel it calms me and keeps our marriage healthy and me in a submissive mindset. I also have other rules I'm expected to follow such as not brushing my hair out without him present (he likes to watch) also to wear finger and toenail polish and eat lunch although I don't get spanked for those.
In addition my husband can also choose to spank me for emotional release or as a reward for good behaviour. They are longer and lighter than a discipline spanking and the wooden paddle or belt are never used. It's what happens when I'm very stressed or hormonal. I can ask for that if I need to and that is preferable to letting poor habits sneak in.
My husband also has rules.
1) Never spank in anger 2) listen and try to be understanding 3) take care of issues in a reasonable time 4) be responsible for health and well being or us both.
So that's our contract. It's quite simple and straightforward. What does DD look like for you or what would you hope it to be like if you think this would benefit your relationship?
