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I Believe In Domestic Discipline

How do you husbands decide the severity of each spanking.
Like for mouthing off
Vs
Spending money without asking

Or any other situation. Give examples of your spanking sessions please
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CarleighJ · 36-40, F
Honestly it depends on the pain threshold and psychological response you have. The pain isn't as necessary as setting off the psychological response of remorse and genuinely sorry for breaking HoH rules. If the HoH can trigger the psychological response of feeling guilty, ashamed, remorse or sorry for the action without inflicting as much pain that is what matters more and the future deterrent imo.

For me I can easily take 20-30 swats with multiple types of implements and bare butt without a problem and without shedding a tear. Not for not wanting to feel sorry for something I did but my threshold is high and have neurological impairments that effect my emotional response. Medications I'm on suppress both pain and emotional state.

For others it may be much lower on both fronts. I would say no more the 5 to 10 swats after psychological response is triggered (crying because of emotional release) or until the resolve to sit through pain is broken. Meaning when the body's response to whither and react to pain is triggered and then 5-10 more after.
Soramarie · 26-30, F
see my pain tolerance is low but I’m so stubborn. So I won’t admit to being in the wrong and that’s a lot of the problem
CarleighJ · 36-40, F
As long as you HoH can push you past your pain threshold a bit, the pain will act as the deterrent instead.
Soramarie · 26-30, F
The issue is I Usually say something smart instead of just being in pain.
CarleighJ · 36-40, F
😊 it happens. Though it is concerned disrespect to have a smart rhetoric, it is also important to understand it is steaming from an emotional release. Only one out of anger instead of remorse for the action.

The job you have to do at that point is get to the point of asking yourself why you are angry? Are you angry at who is spanking you, do you feel like he is not taking into account something you feel is important, or more so angry at yourself for breaking the rules you and your HoH agreed to uphold. Often times when anger pops up it has to be addressed of where it is steaming from to get to the point of being able to accept you messed up or something else needs to be addressed. If you figure out where it is coming from and communicate that it often leads to seeing more acceptable behavior and better relationship.
Soramarie · 26-30, F
Thank you. It’s usually just my response to the pain and how I handle it