Why are some ladies so rude

I’ve talked with other women on discords bc chat. As well as on Reddit and MOST have been very rude and just as bad as the men I’ve talked to. I’m just trying to meet other women with like minded kinks… but end up talking with women that are either scams and NOT women. Or some of the rudest ladies I’ve ever met. Can someone enlightened me on that? DONT GET ME WRONG. I’ve been great men and women thru this discourse. But man, when I tell you it’s MUCH harder finding girls with similar kinks like me compared to men. I MEAN IT.