Is it worth it?

If a friend says or does something that upsets you, but if you tell them they upset you they get annoyed or stop speaking to you…is it worth telling them? I always think they’d want to know if they’ve done something that upset me, if they care about me surely they care I’m upset. But it never works out that way, they’re always just offended that I dare to complain. So what’s the point. Either I’m upset and they’re oblivious, or I’m upset and they’re not happy with me. Is it worth even telling them or am I meant to just accept when they say or do something that upsets me and just be grateful that they bother with me at all?

I genuinely don’t know anymore.

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DHggmu · 31-35, M

It’s not a nice feeling when you feel like you can’t speak your mind because you’re worried about what the other person will think. Sometimes it’s probably better to keep it to yourself and try and move past it if you can, but if it happens a lot then you need to voice it and they need to listen, that’s what friends are supposed to do.

SW-User

@DHggmu whatever I do always seems to be wrong

DHggmu · 31-35, M

@SW-User I know it feels that way, but you’re not wrong because of how you feel, you can’t help that. Maybe your friend is defensive because they feel a similar way, but it definitely sound like you need to have a talk and get your feelings out in the open about what’s bothering you.

NativePortlander1970

@SW-User It's not You, it's them.