I don’t expect one person to be everything…
But it is sad when you can’t connect with a romantic partner on certain things. Especially when you are the one who understands them more than they understand or try to understand you… You rely on friends to fill that gap, and they do- caause- they are Your friends… *shrug* but it would be nice if your romantic partner understood you “that way” too.
It makes you wonder if you should break up with them. However, you also know that in the way they DO understand you, it’s uncommon to find others who think LIKE YOU in that particular way… soo you try not to focus on those gaps, that your friends can fill, and you continue to date your partner….Then you think about FOREVEr… Can I really live like this forever?….Who else is there?.. Can I risk being Alone FOREVEr?…. All the relationship tropes that one daydreams about can be accomplished with This partner, and so if I don’t stay now, I’ll have to start over and the tropes will be delayed, and I’ll be older, and bc of This some things may not be able to happen… Like, starting a family. Taking long hikes. Going to music festivals. Partying together. Having family members accessible but also having certain family members alive. This is important bc those are the people who contributed to who you are today…. Things take time, I know. But I like being able to refer to something in my past life and having my partner know immediately what I mean without explaining the whole picture… Patience. I know! … Patience is crucial no matter which step of a relationship you are in. Sigh. … it’s just nice to be understood immediately. That’s all I’m saying on that…
I dont know, I just wish I didn’t have to feel sad everytime I try to share something that I think is fun and he just goes “o well that’s stupid” or “ that’s not something I think about” or “ I know someone who does that better”…. instead of just enjoying it for what it is, or accepting that IT is something that I like, or just casually acknowledging it .. cause sometimes he will just change the topic/subject entirely without giving recognition to what I’m presenting 👀…
I’ve tried calling it out but he doesn’t register. Things only register if it affects him in some sort of way.. it’s rly too bad bc we are super compatible in many ways.. just not This way… I’m not sure what to do about it…?✨
It makes you wonder if you should break up with them. However, you also know that in the way they DO understand you, it’s uncommon to find others who think LIKE YOU in that particular way… soo you try not to focus on those gaps, that your friends can fill, and you continue to date your partner….Then you think about FOREVEr… Can I really live like this forever?….Who else is there?.. Can I risk being Alone FOREVEr?…. All the relationship tropes that one daydreams about can be accomplished with This partner, and so if I don’t stay now, I’ll have to start over and the tropes will be delayed, and I’ll be older, and bc of This some things may not be able to happen… Like, starting a family. Taking long hikes. Going to music festivals. Partying together. Having family members accessible but also having certain family members alive. This is important bc those are the people who contributed to who you are today…. Things take time, I know. But I like being able to refer to something in my past life and having my partner know immediately what I mean without explaining the whole picture… Patience. I know! … Patience is crucial no matter which step of a relationship you are in. Sigh. … it’s just nice to be understood immediately. That’s all I’m saying on that…
I dont know, I just wish I didn’t have to feel sad everytime I try to share something that I think is fun and he just goes “o well that’s stupid” or “ that’s not something I think about” or “ I know someone who does that better”…. instead of just enjoying it for what it is, or accepting that IT is something that I like, or just casually acknowledging it .. cause sometimes he will just change the topic/subject entirely without giving recognition to what I’m presenting 👀…
I’ve tried calling it out but he doesn’t register. Things only register if it affects him in some sort of way.. it’s rly too bad bc we are super compatible in many ways.. just not This way… I’m not sure what to do about it…?✨
36-40, F
