So this is what it would be like being a father.

@Miram my family 😅 thankfully for my parents, my sister and I both are the virgo stereotype. I used to tidy the space since I was little. Maybe my mom's glare helped a little too lol one look in her eyes and you had no choice 😬

@Miram My friend's friend used to be a typical woman who wanted a big family and looked forward to have a baby so much. Well, almost every single thing that could go wrong went wrong and she ended up living in a one room apartment with a kid that almost never wanted to sleep and screamed most of the time. She concluded this would be her first and the last kid.

@CrazyMusicLover I think rarely do people put much productive thought into having children. If they did, the world would have been far better place for all of us.

@Miram In many cases yes but she couldn't have known all those things would happen. It seems to me pregnancy is always a lottery, some women don't have a single problem and other suffer from one complication after another. For her it was the latter and on the top of it her kid was somewhat hyperactive too. On the other hand, I guess a calm quiet baby is more of a rarity and if you know you're going to live in a single room apartment, problems are inevitable regardless if your kid sleeps well or not.

@CrazyMusicLover

It is important to know and accept that by getting pregnant, you're always potentially risking your own life whether short or long term, even if you've had your entire medical profile mapped out, there are still risks and those are just approximate predictions.

The part that annoys me though is how people are quick to have children before ensuring their child will grow up is safe and healthy context, especially financially.

Money is really important. It is important for their education, their physical security, the quality of healthcare they will recieve...everything.

And more crucial than that is their ability to parent . We cannot be the best parent they can have if we have no ability to manage our moods, mental illness, still struggling with addictions, can't manage healthy life style..etc. We don't have to be perfect but there certainly needs be level of willingness to grow and learn. I don't see that with most people who want to have kids, it is just the next step in social life.