Could you eat food from an unkept kitchen

An old friend insists it's her time to cook and invited us to dinner. They are very lazy in the kitchen, never putting things away, opened food packets laying around, rotten fruit in the bowl, dirty dishes piled up, dogfood bowls scattered around, dusty surfaces cobwebs, and a filthy fat-spattered stovetop. There is no way either of us will go. I think I will just have to be truthful with them. We dont understand as outside the home, they take pride in their appearance and are always smartly dressed and clean.