It's about a plural marriage. I'm rewatching it years after I watched it when it was new. Ugh. I'm still as disgusted as I was back then! lol
I don't actually have a problem with polyamory as long as all parties are of legal age and consenting, but when it's one man and multiple women (or one woman and multiple men), I feel it sets up an unfair foundation from the start. If there were multiple men AND women, maybe that would even the playing field a little. Either way, the plural lifestyle is not for me. I need intimacy in a relationship... and you are NOT gonna get true intimacy with 3 or more people. Not to mention, those fundamentalist Mormons who abuse very young girls in the name of their religion just give the entire idea a sour taste.
I was in a poly relationship for 6 years. It was one man and 3 women. It was much like a polygamist marriage- the women were all with the man one at a time, not all together like some *rgy, lol. We each had our night of the week with him. It worked for about 4 years, but then the guy just started slipping when it came to fairness and equality (this is inevitable). He began to spend more time with the woman who had the most income (he was a user for sure) and less time with the rest of us. He started forgetting who he had made certain inside jokes with, whose favorite flower was an Orchid, who he had binge-watched which tv series with. We were all seeming to run together in his mind, which is incredibly insulting. It was also hell when it came to holidays, special occasions (who will accompany him? Which family will he spend Christmas with?), etc. It was just silly and ridiculous. Thank god we never had kids with him. After 6 years, the first girlfriend and I both called it quits with him and left him to the only woman who still seemed to want him- the 3rd girlfriend.
I gave it a fair shot because I cared about the dude and didn't want to sh*t on something that I had never even tried... but now that I have tried it, I can safely say it's just a bad idea all around. Intimacy and trust are the two things I value MOST in a relationship, and poly just doesn't cater to that. Plus, why make your life more complicated than it has to be?
I could never do it either, I haven’t ever given it a shot but I don’t like to share so I know this would never work for me. For the people who do like it and make it work (although I highly doubt any do) then good for them. I’m happy being one on one.
