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How did you learn to accept your SO for who they were?

I love many things about my long-term boyfriend, but get caught up in judgment mode when it comes to things like his love for video gaming, his less-than-pristine hair or clothing habits (he works from home), and his lack of awareness of certain things around the house or things required to make plans happen (e.g., what we need to get done before going on a trip or how long it will take to organize XYZ).
The thing is, I know I'm not perfect. I can veg out to reality TV like a champ, and I'm messy, and I'm (duh) annoyingly critical. But he loves and accepts me for who I am. How can I let go of the things that bug me, and recognize that some of the more organizational thinking stuff that I'm better at doesn't have to be his strong suit? It's like I expect him to be good at everything, rather than just accepting that we excel at different things. I could guess as to why I'm highly critical -- I had a critical, highly reactive/emotionally unpredictable mother as my model, and I devoted my earlier years to pursuing ballet, which demands perfection -- but that doesn't mean I want to continue the behavior. It serves me well in my job as an editor, but it is a morale killer in relationships. I'm actively addressing it in therapy, and learning to be less hard on myself as well, but it's a really hard pattern to kick. Please share anything that helped you along the way!
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smiler2012 · 56-60, M
{@keepyoureyespeeled ] i suppose deep down is you love him you need to accept him warts and all to make the relationship work . nobody is perfect we have all have annoying ways and funny as it sounds he may feel precisely the same way about things you do that gets under his skin
I could not. Hence, we ain't together.

 
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