I Am In Love With A Narcissist

I feel your pain, really I do. I hope you've managed to get over him. I don't know if people like that can change. How can you force someone to care? I hope that one way or another, you've somehow managed to get to a better place now, as I can see that this is an old post.

If you have found a way to get over this guy, let me know, as I'm suffering in the same way. The narcissist that I've fallen in love with, I haven't heard from in three weeks now. I've asked him some questions that I really need the answers to, but the most important questions, he can't or won't answer.

Now I'm afraid that I pushed him too far the last time we talked, and I'll probably never hear from him again. But why should I always be the one who is worried about losing him because I've said or done something wrong. Shouldn't he be equally worried about losing my friendship? I know that we could never be anything more than friends, because of the situation. But his friendship really did come to mean a lot to me last year, and now I'm devastated that he doesn't seem to care anymore. Or maybe he never did, and he just pretended to care, until he got what he wanted and then forgot all about me. ;(

I just don't understand why he doesn't realize what he could be losing by treating me this way. I'm a good person, and I can be a very good friend. And I think I've shown that. But apparently he sees most of his friends as disposable. But there are some that he chooses to treat with respect and keep around, and that makes it all the harder not to take this personally. It's so hard not to ask what's wrong with me, why he chose to treat me this way, when he obviously values others so much more.