How do you fall out of love with a narcissist? I love and miss my ex but I think he was toxic...

First, stay away from him at all costs. Do things for yourself, like get on a healthy diet, start going to the YMCA and exercise, find a new hobby, and start realizing you are worth more. Soon you will fall out of love with him because you realzie what he is, you will look back and wonder what you ever saw in him.

DrWatson · 70-79, M

Everyone so far has posted great responses. I would add the following.

Narcissists project an image of who they want to believe they are. They deceive others and themselves with that image.

You are in love with the image. The man you love never existed.

morrgin · F

Found this ...

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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

Believe me. What you felt for him is nothing like the love you'll feel in an actual healthy relationship. You'll notice the opposite difference. And realize there was no love in that old abusive relationship. Just the idea of it.

MeowsoliniReturns · 51-55, F

This can begin when you learn to value yourself first. Narcissists have a manipulative way of making you feel guilty or crazy for having boundaries. They are extremely toxic individuals. You can listen to a lot of great YouTube videos on the subject. I've been there and it sucks. All the best to you. ❤️

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

You learn to value yourself more

Muthafukajones · 46-50, M

You have to somehow accept that they never really truly loved you. Once you accept that, letting go will be easier.

meggie · F

He probably made you feel you were worthless and lucky to have him. When you are ready to date again that will help you realise things and move on.

DrWatson · 70-79, M

I think we should add that yes, we understand that the things we are suggesting are things that will hurt. 🙁

We know this is hard.

SW-User

Just keep thinking about all the negative things he did. We can often forget them and get sucked back in.

akindheart · 61-69, F

You have to cut all ties and go no contact completely

RedBaron · M

My father was one. He finally died.

Milooo · 16-17

my ex was also a narcissist, and i still have feelings for him. he said the type of girl he liked, so i turned into that. (a obsessed freak) and now i cant lose feelings for him

NativePortlander1970 ·

Easy, just realize that they have been lying to you and gaslighting from the beginning.