Preparing to Leave a Narcissist – 7 Things You Must Know [I Want To Spread Narcissism Awareness]

@CleverFunnyNameGoesHere I am interested about spreading awareness about narcissism,because I grew up in a narcissistic family and suffered greatly because of it,as a child I believe they treated me the way they did because I was a bad girl and deserved it, at 14 years I asked to see a psychiatrist to find out what was so wrong with me that I was so hammered by the rest of the "family" my father agreed and took me to see one,he talked to me for a while and then I heard him say under his breath "poor little girl"then he advised me to study hard at school,he never said something was wrong with me,then he talked to my father in private and we went home,my father was quiet all the way back,I expected to get a earfull but did not,sadly things did not change at "home" they had a victim and did not want to her let go,I was the youngest and more vulnerable member of that family.I finaly left "home" at 17 I had a job and could rent a room and buy basic food.Then because of my abysmal low self esteem I entered into a relationship with another narcissist who abused me like they did but having been so used to it, it had become familiar,I left him eventually after seven years because I grew to hate him,I did turn against him rather than become addicted to his abuse.I want to help people recognise that narcissistic abuse aimed at them is not their fault and sadly not many people in this world will want to hear about what you went through,it bores them and if they came from a normal loving family,they will think you are making things up,others will feel disturbed by what you say and will in turn avoid you, it is rare to find someone who will listen unless they too have suffered from narcissistic abuse.

@berangere It is difficult to find people who will listen. Especially since often times narcissists convince other people around them that their victim is a narcissist. It is frustrating. All you can do is go away from them, and if their drama follows you, then you move away again and keep locking anyone who sides with the narcissist out of your life until someday someone who isn't going to let their judgment be swayed by someone else's words actually takes the time to listen to you and treat you like a human being.

@CleverFunnyNameGoesHere Well said,yes it is all one can do,avoid the flying monkeys,trying to justify yourself to those whose minds have been poisonned by the narcissist's smear campaign against you is futile and as the Queen said "never complain,never explain".