I Do Not Like Narcissists

I have been hearing the word "Narcissist" being used a lot lately, especially on the news. I thought I had a good idea of what it meant. I thought it just meant being overly proud. Out of curiosity I looked it up online and I found this interesting:

Traits and Signs of Narcissism:

- An obvious self-focus in interpersonal exchanges
- Problems in sustaining satisfying relationships
- A lack of psychological awareness
- Difficulty with empathy
- Problems distinguishing the self from others
- Hypersensitivity to any insults or imagined insults
- Vulnerability to shame rather than guilt
- Haughty body language
- Flattery towards people who admire and affirm them
- Detesting those who do not admire them
- Using other people without considering the cost of doing so
- Pretending to be more important than they actually are
- Bragging (subtly but persistently) and exaggerating their achievements
- Claiming to be an "expert" at many things
- Inability to view the world from the perspective of other people
- Denial of remorse and gratitude

Do you know anyone who sounds like this?

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Msp940 · 41-45, M

Sadly my own mother is a narcissist. She was much more subtle in her methods but they were there lurking under every uncomfortable childhood memory. It wasn't until I became a father that I was able to see her for what she was. When she repeatedly showed a complete lack of respect for my wishes as a parent (among several other things) I was forced to separate myself and my kids from her. It has been one of my best decisions. People who are narcissist can not be reasoned with. They can not be "cured" since the ones I have seen have no desire to change. They don't believe anything is wrong with them and the rest of the world is full of idiots that haven't figured things out. If you have someone like this in your life, I suggest putting as much distance between you and him/her as you can.

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Msp940 · 41-45, M

Spoken as someone who has made a judgment with limited information and several assumptions. Narcissist are toxic people and the sooner you can separate from them, the better. Whether or not they can be "cured" is irrelevant. In the process they will rip apart your life and then discard you when you stop providing them with a narcissistic supply.
I did read this thread and I would be a fool to take the words of someone on SW as research. I do my own research from multiple sources and angles. Some do claim there is a cure with psychotherapy, but often that approach does not work. The person in a relationship with the narcissist is the real victim. Anyone that tries to push you back into a relationship with one, does not have your best interests at heart.

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