How can I stop planning so much?

I plan for the future too much and I need to be in the moment. I've got plenty of things about myself I'm trying to get together. I've never really had a girlfriend. I plan so much for what my future girlfriend/wife will be like. I also have OCD and I'm trying hard to defeat it. I feel apathetic sometimes too. I want to get my life together bad?

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come2gether · 46-50, M

There's a balance that can be hard to achieve. I know what you mean. There are many plans, but not always executed to your own expectations. You let yourself down and that's self disappointment.

Only pick 1 or 2 goals to be really hard core about. More than that, and you will fail at them all. Still have other background goals of course, but you have to be very selective about which ones are on the front burners.

Put the majority of your spare time into accomplishing the front burners, and some time into working toward your back burner items.

Suddenly, it will all come together. I promise.

You'll also be a very attractive man to very many women with that kind of organized drive. Another promise