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"Normal' is a word to quibble over.
Like "perfect", it's something that doesn't really exist.
Think of the bell curve for any human trait.
Most people score either average or somewhere within 23% less or more than average; these are described as being in the normal range.
But on any other trait the same person will often score outside the "norm".
Imagine a combination lock with 8 numbers. Imagine each human trait as a number between 0 and 9. Then imagine all the possible combinations of numbers. On only 8 traits, that makes millions of differences. And yet we all of us have far more than only 8 traits.
Thus, not one of us is "normal."
How about lifestyle?
Many of us will follow the norms: go to school, get a job, pay taxes, marry, rent or buy a house, have kids, care for aging parents, grow old, etc.
Many will do ordinary things, using cell phones, driving cars, drinking coffee, watching TV or Netflix.
At a certain point, many adults will fall into a rut and feel bored. They will start to do things to try to create variety and interest, like trying to have sexual affairs on websites like this, or going on holidays, or taking up a sport or hobby.
There are often moments of deep satisfaction and happiness in all of these things, but there is also suffering... the angsts of dating, finding a partner, quarrels, unresolvable differences,
accidents, illnesses, death and loss, etc.
Almost every family suffers from at least one member who is well outside the "norm" - who is an addict, has some adverse neurological condition, is deeply traumatised by war, poverty, severely dysfunctional family or cultural history, etc.
Normal is not happiness; it is suffering - even though most people mask it in public.
To develop happiness, try exploring mindfulness meditation. It can't cure everything, but it can make a huge difference. It can make life well worth living - even in the face of disadvantages.
Like "perfect", it's something that doesn't really exist.
Think of the bell curve for any human trait.
Most people score either average or somewhere within 23% less or more than average; these are described as being in the normal range.
But on any other trait the same person will often score outside the "norm".
Imagine a combination lock with 8 numbers. Imagine each human trait as a number between 0 and 9. Then imagine all the possible combinations of numbers. On only 8 traits, that makes millions of differences. And yet we all of us have far more than only 8 traits.
Thus, not one of us is "normal."
How about lifestyle?
Many of us will follow the norms: go to school, get a job, pay taxes, marry, rent or buy a house, have kids, care for aging parents, grow old, etc.
Many will do ordinary things, using cell phones, driving cars, drinking coffee, watching TV or Netflix.
At a certain point, many adults will fall into a rut and feel bored. They will start to do things to try to create variety and interest, like trying to have sexual affairs on websites like this, or going on holidays, or taking up a sport or hobby.
There are often moments of deep satisfaction and happiness in all of these things, but there is also suffering... the angsts of dating, finding a partner, quarrels, unresolvable differences,
accidents, illnesses, death and loss, etc.
Almost every family suffers from at least one member who is well outside the "norm" - who is an addict, has some adverse neurological condition, is deeply traumatised by war, poverty, severely dysfunctional family or cultural history, etc.
Normal is not happiness; it is suffering - even though most people mask it in public.
To develop happiness, try exploring mindfulness meditation. It can't cure everything, but it can make a huge difference. It can make life well worth living - even in the face of disadvantages.
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
😺 none of us on sw were
LostOrchid · F
@MartinTheFirst i feel i should not judge them 🤭