Do people really think handling people with BPD is too much?

Yes. My partner worked on a psych ward for over a decade. Yes. Hands down yes.

I imagine that is painful to hear being BPD. I truly hope you have a good care team and work to keep yourself healthy and not abusive to others around you. It will make life so much easier for you.

And just remember, like most mental illness, there's a spectrum- some individuals have it FAR worse than others.