Is this normal

First your mind is so wonderful please pause to thank yourself for having a thought process that is discerning and the self worth to know that his words are at the very least ‘off’. There is inner strength in the knowing. Knowing that as a human who is growing into adulthood this is your time to try and make mistakes(ideally we have our grownups to protect us and fall back on-but I resonate with your experience) but do not let his opinion hold you back from trying. Even if that means you make ‘mistakes’. Growth comes from our falls sweet one. Also you know your outward appearance is not a reflection on your being. Most likely you will not change his opinion or manner of speaking to you. My advice is while he’s speaking words of untruth and negativity in your mind replace them with what you know to be true about yourself. I do not know you- but I know you are capable of thought outside of your environment. Not everyone your age or even adults are capable of that. And that’s beautiful. You are expressive! Hair and makeup are art and art can heal our wounds without having to re-experience them. Remember this is not forever. And show him who you are. Pursue a passion. And if you stop liking it. Pursue another while ignoring any negative talk about giving up. You’re young, be respectful…but in your mind know and keep staying strong and knowing.