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Graylight · 51-55, F
Let's stop with all this "emotional pain" stuff. Everyone has emotional pain. Only a fraction of us become addicts.
Alcoholism (and addiction in general) has been shown to be as much as 55% genetic, meaning we often see families with generational addiction. For these addicts, the body actually metabolizes alcohol in a different way than does the normal system. They tend also to have neurochemical imbalances and irregularities in similar parts of the brain. These parts of the brain deal with recklessness, impulse control and novelty seeking.
This last part can also effect those with deep trauma or environmental pressures who choose substances to cope. Because after drinking (and drugging) begin, the brain begins to change, as does every system in the human body. But the crucial area here is the part of the brain responsible for executive function. The more and longer a person drinks or drugs, the more this area is damaged, and it eventually becomes difficult to impossible to make decisions reflective of critical thought and good planning. After a while, the addict can't stop.
Many of us are deeply emotionally scarred and there's a theory afoot positing that we're born with a chemical deficiency we try to replace with nearly anything we can. But anyone can get sober. Keep in mind, abstinence is not sobriety. In order to give up all drugs, a full life shift has to occur and a healthy lifestyle adopted. This takes therapy and fellowship, not merely "emotional healing" or more willpower.
Lastly, relapses occur in stages. Emotional, mental and physical. By the time a person picks up, he or she's been in relapse for some time. This is why full and thorough sobriety is so crucial. People have bad days, sudden events, old triggers and frightening situations. We need to protect against those by prevention. The addict's brain doesn't function like yours; have empathy for that. There's a substance that will always call his or her name, like a siren. Learning to ignore it takes some trial and error.
Alcoholism (and addiction in general) has been shown to be as much as 55% genetic, meaning we often see families with generational addiction. For these addicts, the body actually metabolizes alcohol in a different way than does the normal system. They tend also to have neurochemical imbalances and irregularities in similar parts of the brain. These parts of the brain deal with recklessness, impulse control and novelty seeking.
This last part can also effect those with deep trauma or environmental pressures who choose substances to cope. Because after drinking (and drugging) begin, the brain begins to change, as does every system in the human body. But the crucial area here is the part of the brain responsible for executive function. The more and longer a person drinks or drugs, the more this area is damaged, and it eventually becomes difficult to impossible to make decisions reflective of critical thought and good planning. After a while, the addict can't stop.
Many of us are deeply emotionally scarred and there's a theory afoot positing that we're born with a chemical deficiency we try to replace with nearly anything we can. But anyone can get sober. Keep in mind, abstinence is not sobriety. In order to give up all drugs, a full life shift has to occur and a healthy lifestyle adopted. This takes therapy and fellowship, not merely "emotional healing" or more willpower.
Lastly, relapses occur in stages. Emotional, mental and physical. By the time a person picks up, he or she's been in relapse for some time. This is why full and thorough sobriety is so crucial. People have bad days, sudden events, old triggers and frightening situations. We need to protect against those by prevention. The addict's brain doesn't function like yours; have empathy for that. There's a substance that will always call his or her name, like a siren. Learning to ignore it takes some trial and error.
