Have you ever been told that every thing is your fault?

Yes! By my now ex husband who drank all the time and said it was my fault and sometimes blamed the kids.
I learned what I needed to and understood it wasn't because of me, he just used any excuse/reason to drink and be drunk.

Yes, a “friend” did that to me not so long ago…was one of the things that pushed me into a breakdown (the final straw)

My narcissistic and abusive ex told me this at least once every day

Yes, but it's good to remember some people like to play the victim so they blame everyone else for all their problems and take no ownership for what they do wrong.

Yes by most if my foster families and all of my abusers.

What you need to ask yourself if there is anyway to fix what’s been done if the answer is no then you know it’s not something worth spending your time feeling guilty over. If you can seek forgiveness do it. But ultimately the most important person to forgive you is you. Accept what won’t be changed & do better as you go

All the time actually