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Men…is this true: Can a woman ever express her love or affection for you too much?

This is a question I often ponder. I’m naturally very loving and affectionate. Like when I’m with someone, I have no problem expressing my love for them through text or phone call whenever I get the urge lol. But I try not to do it too much because apparently people say it turns men off when you do that. Like it seems as if you’re chasing them. But if we are together, why does me expressing my love to you make me creepy or overbearing lmao. It’s like you never really know what to do. Like why do we have to play games to keep someone who so called loves us interested. Why can’t we just rest and feel comfort in our love lol? Just a few thoughts. No my partner has not made me feel less than for showing my love to him. But so many articles and so called love gurus go against it. Pretty much saying we will annoy them and push them away if we text first too much, or always initiate contact first, or say you love them too much. Apparently we need to cause men to always want to chase us in order to keep them interested. Thats ridiculous. If we love each other, it should simply be that. No games, so my question is, is this true?? Men??
deadteddy · F
I was once called clingy and overly attached by this guy. Now I’m cold and distant af 😎, cause nobody appreciates when you’re attached like that. They see you as weak.
Saucylover · 26-30, F
@deadteddy I understand that. Sucks though. Because I don’t really have an in between. I either love you and show it, or if I’m unable to do that I just become cold and distant as well lol. I’ve never been called clingy or needy, but I hate that someone called you that. It never hurts to love.
There’s a difference between expressing love and being clingy, showing PDA in the most inappropriate circumstances, or showing affection to the point where the other person feels suffocated.

People have different needs for space, or ways of expressing love. Couples have to find that balance on what is comfortable for both parties.
TexChik · F
@CookieCrumbs That's one of those things women have to pay attention to. How much is enough, and how little is too little? In a romantic setting, certainly more is better. When we are working or busy with life, I will sneak a hug and maybe steal a kiss, and then I am out of his hair. If we are alone together, he gets picked on and flirted with. I do what feels right and fun. Being single, though, is a different affair. More is less in that situation. Pour it on when intimacy is the goal, and then give only enough to keep him wanting the rest of the time. 😉
We think alike here.

Well said, my friend!
I dunno who you're listening to but that's some very poor advice.

Everyone enjoys true, genuine, heartfelt appreciation and love

Showing love is nothing like overbearing. Nobody has time to chasing anyone, especially when it comes to starting a family or building a home.

I hate that nonsense and for any man who hasn't been converted to a simp by modern western society, that type of nonsense makes him leave to check who isn't a waste of time cuz everybody's got stuff to do
Saucylover · 26-30, F
@sexyjigsaw It’s just things I’ve been hearing from these modern dating gurus lol. I’m not taking the advice. I’m still going to be my loving self lol. I just wanted to ask what you guys think.
@Saucylover modern dating gurus are clowns. The whole concept of dating is for serial daters. And serial daters who run through partners are nor marriage material who fight their own demons and problems, change, and put their family/spouse first. And that's what we long for.

Often times, the advice will be selfish and exploitative.

Be you. Be strong. Love is essential. In a relationship, ironically, it is about the other. Being loving, caring, and sweet is never a bad thing unless someone is afraid of being touched by your love because they are not truly interested in being attached to you.

Continue on and try to avoid the insidious ideas going around that destroy relationships cuz anyone can date and pick a partner. What they never teach is how to be loving and express your love and how to get over yourself and make sacrifices for a relationship to work.
meggie · 36-40, F
An aunt is like that and it's very sad. She worships her husband and he treats her like shit. She gave up her career for him and even when she inherited money he took that. Sometimes she looks so sad as she hurts so much. She stroked his face once and called him darling. He pulled a face and pushed her hand away. Their Christian beliefs keep them together but their love isn't a two way thing.
subhubby · 56-60, M
@meggie that is very sad and not how men should treat their wife or GF.
meggie · 36-40, F
@subhubby it is. I think he still loved his ex deeply and married her on the rebound.
Zonuss · 41-45, M
It can if it's overwhelming or superficial. It's the motive behind ones actions that count.
They do say never be clingy to a man and I believe it. Many men like women that are narcissistic and try their best to act smart and sexy. Men want women that can manipulate them into following them like they are goddesses. They basically like evil biches. Many men don’t like simple and kind hearted women and I’m not afraid to say so. 😠
@DestinyCalling not really. I would say many men did not learn what to look for in a girl. They do not know the signs of a good woman
Oster1 · M
No, and should ALWAYS BE RESPECTED,regardless!!! 😊🌷
Adamski24 · 41-45, M
For me it's OTT is you're calling and text lots of times in the same day or even sometimes the week.

It can give of a bunny boiler vibe

Can work both ways lots of women don't like the man being like men being like that either.

It all depends on the individual person what they're like.
As long as you're both happy that's all that matters in the relationship.

Never change just to please someone else
Some people don’t know how to accept love. Think they aren’t worthy.
SilkenMist · 46-50, F
Just if you get the vibe that he wants to end things, just walk into his house with a loaded 45 and say, "You tryna break up with me mutha fuggah? NOW what's up?!"

Kidding aside,

I think what every man dreams of is having a lady by his side who has a warm smile and genuinely wants to be there.
Like this sweet lady -

Oster1 · M
You are right and very wise! 😊
eyeno · M
Not to me ..,but every man is different.

pdockal · 56-60, M
It all depends on the man your with
We all have different needs abs tolerate things differently
I would enjoy someone being direct
But unfortunately society has is programmed and most play games
MarkRichardson · 41-45, M
Too much of anything in a relationship can feel claustrophobic. Too little can leave you feeling undervalued. The trick is finding just enough.

Does that answer the question?
Saucylover · 26-30, F
@MarkRichardson Yes, it does! Thanks for the insight.
ineedadrink · 51-55, M
As I see it, whatever works for you two, works for you two. So long as he is receptive, and not feeling like he's being forced to play along it's all great.
Saucylover · 26-30, F
@ineedadrink Yeah, we are fine together. We have very open and honest communication. And he honestly typically initiates communicate first. Not out of me not wanting to, but just because of our schedules lol. But this has always been something that interests me.
TheMasterMan1 · 22-25, M
Nah not really unless you're asking us too much of our own personal free time. It's healthy to express love, but super unhealthy to let it effect other areas of one's life
DrewLooking4U · 41-45, M
Never!! Least for me. I love an open and affectionate relationship. I’d rather a woman pour love on me then me question the love she has for me
iamBen · 46-50, M
The only reason I can think of that a guy would feel uncomfortable with expressions of love is if they don't feel as strongly about her as she does about him.
RoxClymer · 41-45, M
depends on how I feel about herI am ok with her gushing a lil over how I feel but smothering me in it just makes me want to pull back and 'wall up'
Adogslife · 61-69, M
No games is the only way to go. Go after what you feel. That’s what men like.

The only risk is when a woman is too clingy. That’s a turn off in most instances.
Yes. Relationships work best when they're balanced, and they can't be balanced if one person is always initiating communication
TheStarsareout · 56-60, M
I think being yourself is the best way, that way you will find real people like yourself who will appreciate you as yourself.
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
I’ve never had a problem with her expressing her love too often or too much
Steve42 · 56-60, M
Fine line between that and being too clingy/needy.
Saucylover · 26-30, F
@Steve42 Well, we both have careers. So we don’t talk all the time tbh. But I understand that.
Oster1 · M
Never, ever throw a love away! One may never recieve another!!!
Funlov · M
I don’t like clingy people like my own space
JSmith75 · 46-50, M
Never I adore when they do
RuyLopez · 56-60, M
Not if it is sincere.
tacobell · 26-30, M
I find clingy women annoying. It's like being on a leash. It's good to express affection but too much makes you feel like you have no space to yourself as an individual
NotIrishormilitant · 26-30, M
Not true in my case. It's not expressions of love that bother me or make me less interested.

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