Are you running after fame and achievements?
Why are people drawn to fame?
I’m between gen z/ millenial generation and people my age continuously strive to become influencers/ at least famous. To the point it consumes their whole lives. The obvious motivation is of course money but i see people making decisions that hurts other in pursuit of fame even though they lead a comfortable life otherwise. What do you guys think? Fame is literally killing me and I can't escape it
The reason I'm posting this on Reddit is because this is the only place I can really anonymously ask a question like this. And no none of this is bragging, I'm sick of insecure people getting annoyed when I talk about this. I'm a 22 year old man, and I've been a pretty popular social media influencer since I was 16 years old. I do commentary on one channel, and list videos on the other. I'm very similar in vein to Dolan Dark or any of those types of tabloids (I'm very frequently referred to as the next Vice or Buzzfeed). My channel's (Which have my face in full view for every single video) total subscriber count is under 10 million but over 5 million. The channels blew up when I was 17 and have only been exponentially growing since then. The thing is, I can't just stop doing this whenever I want. I dropped out of high school to pursue this and have no job skills or experience and no education whatsoever. And I make quite a LOT of money from this and use the money I get to support my family (My family being content with my overwhelming support at this point). I'm expecting a baby in June as well so I don't have the ability to start new or fresh and I also support my girlfriend. I have over 9000 dollars worth of expenses to deal with every month at minimum so you can see why I can't just stop this job when I have zero education or job experience. We would be in literal poverty if I did that. The problem? This "fame" is literally killing me. I never thought that being an internet content creator would actually bring you recognizable fame in the real world but I was goddamn wrong. I just wanted to showcase my passion for video production. But at least 10 people recognize me a day and it can be any time anywhere. I could be going on a date with my girlfriend and get swarmed by people taking photos of me for "memes" or trying to suggest video ideas to me. This is completely my fault, as my videos feature my whole face/body throughout nearly every frame. But it's getting legitimately overwhelming. People are also incessantly cruel to me in real life, you'd think people treat "celebrities" with respect? WRONG they treat you like a caged zoo animal. I get boo'd very frequently, I've been assaulted, I've been doxxed and I've had my tires slashed (Though I'm not sure if that was related to me at all) all in the last 6 months. And now that I've started to reach mainstream social media with my content thousands upon thousands of people every day are discussing how evil, stupid, incompetent, worthless and undeserving of life that I am. It is unbelievably overwhelming how seriously people take my stupid content. People also go out of their way to find pictures of my family, I've been getting contacted by multiple stalkers that attempted to swat me, etc. On top of that, my own fans have been turning against me and demanding I make a specific old style of content I used to make and the pressure to keep up with their psychotic demands actually resulted last week in me drinking a bunch of liquor then trying cocaine with my friend Dan for the first time so that I would have the mental energy to get a video done. I don't sleep, I only eat one meal a day and I think about death every single day. I feel like I'm trapped in a living hell that I cannot escape from unless I were to completely destroy my own life. And I genuinely can NOT escape it, not only is my content with my face in it gigantic; a few of my videos have taken on a life of their own as huge internet memes due to the way I pronounce things. I will never be gone from the internet even years after I die. Why do people desire fame?
With the advent of social media, it seems that more and more people are chasing fame these days. What are the underlying reasons why people are so desperate for the attention of strangers? Are you pursuing a love of music or fame and glory?
I've been lurking around here for a couple of years now, and yes I have seen many people come and go.
I have to ask the members of this subreddit... are you an aspiring DJ for the music or for the hopes and ambitions of fame and stardom?
The reason why I ask, there's a lot more post these last few months that are more about seeking work/gigs/touring/money side of the medium, and less about the music itself.
DJ's first and foremost love music. Even if you are a nobody, have no aspirations of glory and commercial success what you have in common with the big guys is the love of music. Spending hours talking or thinking about it, a small fortune buying it and lots of lots of times playing it, getting better and learning. Im just starting to get the vibe around here it's more this subreddit is becoming a pursuit of 'instafame' and glory first, music second. i'm pretty sure i've started to hate people now. back in high school when i actually had real friends i felt happy to be around people. i felt like i had genuine connections with people and they cared about me unconditionally. but now the only 'friends' i have are ones that are working in the same field as me. but i see them as more like co-workers than friends. the worst part is no matter what happens or how i feel about them, i'm forced to be friendly with them. because otherwise fans will assume drama and i don't want that pressure on the other person. people think that every time someone famous does something there's an ulterior motive so i have to be conscious of every decision i make making sure that it won't lead to any unnecessary drama, or damaging to my image. i feel like i'm not free to make any decisions as a result. it's become extremely stressful having basic social interactions with people because of this. i haven't had any luck meeting interesting people who have no idea who i am so making new friends, people i actually want to connect with has been impossible for me.
i genuinely hate talking with other people. i'm so used to thousands of messages from complete strangers judging me or inquiring about my personal life daily that i think it diluted my cognitive capability of basic human interaction. i genuinely don't believe human beings are genetically designed to be talking to thousands of strangers every day, in the form of text no-less. what i'm doing is so mentally exhausting to me that it made me believe i will never find happiness, or true love, or start a family and raise children, things that everyone agrees are supposed to be the rules of life.
i'm not even passionate with what i do. it doesn't make me happy in the slightest. i know that not every fan is some over-obsessive loser. i know that there are good people who like me, but even if i read what they have to say about me i just feel nothing. i constantly say stuff like 'i love you guys, i wouldn't be doing this without you' but it's almost funny to me now because it's completely not true. truth is i just do it because i don't know how to do anything else. i got incredibly lucky and i make a lot of money doing relatively low-skill work and i'm too much of a coward to just abandon it and actually learn something new. the truth is that i'm kind of a bad person. every time i want to get into a romantic relationship with someone i always feel like they're with me for money and fame, even when it's not true. i tried doing some self-reflection and realized that not every person is out to get me or obsessed with internet culture or whatever. the fact that i assume they are is just my own insecurity. i understand and acknowledge that the problem is me, but that in-turn made me hate myself way more. how am i supposed to be a role model for literally millions of people when i'm this much of a shitty person? i wouldn't wish for anyone to be anywhere near like me and when i read comments from people saying how i inspire them it honestly makes me sick. i understand that the scale of my problems might not be that sympathetic with a lot of you. i mean, i'm wealthy and the position i have is desirable to most people. i understand that. but i'm not looking for sympathy anyway. i like reddit and especially this subreddit because of its animosity. i feel like telling your secrets to strangers on the internet who don't know you is so strangely gratifying which is why i wanted to give this a shot. so yeah. i don't know what to do. i know that as time goes by i'll become irrelevant and people won't care about me anymore, which might seem good, but considering how i literally don't know what else to do with my life it's actually terrifying rather than relieving. Have you ever wanted to be famous? If so why? If not why?
I was reading an article the other day and it was interesting it had this idea that all humans were obsessed with fame and it’s been like that for years. But has it? Is that just generalising? People who had a chance at being really famous and successful, and it didn’t work out, what happened? Do you think the only way to get famous nowadays is to get a shout out from someone bigger?
I feel like a lot of rappers and producers nowadays only started to come up after they got noticed by a bigger artist. I feel like the only way someone can make it as a producer/rapper is to collaborate with a bigger artists even if they're song sounds amazing
What has changed about you the most since becoming famous?
Are you happy about the change? Would you do something different to avoid the change if you could do it over? Big time celebs, musicians, actors, authors, reality celebs, porn stars, models, 15 minute folks, ect.. You all count. There's no need to tell us who you are.
If you don't get a shout out.. Coming up seems incredibly hard. I've felt this way since a child. I was never a perfectionist, but I was always a dreamer. My dream was to be a famous singer.
By high school I was acting and in singing groups. I sang and played piano solo for multiple events, usually to crowds of 400 or more. It scared me but I loved the attention.
In college I finished writing an album and recorded it. I didn't really market it since I wasn't happy with the outcome. I finished college by 21 and am now about a year out.
I don't have much to complain about. I have a steady job and make about $40k a year. I have an apartment in one of the nicest cities in the US. I have no debt/loans. I have a loving boyfriend and friends. I've travelled to 14 countries (and proudly can say I paid for it all myself).
Everyone thinks I'm doing great but I'm depressed all the time. I'm trying to have a steady and successful life to fill the void of fame that I've wanted since a child. I'm looking to go to grad school at the university I work for since it will be funded, but it's a 3 year commitment which means I can kiss a music career out the door.
I've never even tried to make it work. Something has always held me back. I get so frustrated seeing so many people have their 15 minutes of Internet fame and I can't even achieve that.
I often want to isolate myself from my relationships to focus on these goals but it's tiring. I feel conflicted at all times. My dad lived in NYC for 12 years when he was younger and pursued being an artist. He put his life on hold and didn't achieve that so maybe that's why I'm afraid. Not sure. Really need some advice. Are you looking to get famous? Would you want to be famous?
Knowing all you know from Deuxmoi/other celeb gossip blogs, especially when it comes to how terrible many well-liked celebrities are in real life, do you have any desire to be famous? Even if you don't want to be an A lister, how about a lesser level of fame like a B or C lister? I had a strong desire to be famous in the entertainment industry until I started reading more celeb gossip. I think I like my privacy more than the idea of fame. It seems like it'd be hard to date or even make friends as someone who is well-known because you don't know whether they want your company or proximity to your fame.
I’m between gen z/ millenial generation and people my age continuously strive to become influencers/ at least famous. To the point it consumes their whole lives. The obvious motivation is of course money but i see people making decisions that hurts other in pursuit of fame even though they lead a comfortable life otherwise. What do you guys think? Fame is literally killing me and I can't escape it
The reason I'm posting this on Reddit is because this is the only place I can really anonymously ask a question like this. And no none of this is bragging, I'm sick of insecure people getting annoyed when I talk about this. I'm a 22 year old man, and I've been a pretty popular social media influencer since I was 16 years old. I do commentary on one channel, and list videos on the other. I'm very similar in vein to Dolan Dark or any of those types of tabloids (I'm very frequently referred to as the next Vice or Buzzfeed). My channel's (Which have my face in full view for every single video) total subscriber count is under 10 million but over 5 million. The channels blew up when I was 17 and have only been exponentially growing since then. The thing is, I can't just stop doing this whenever I want. I dropped out of high school to pursue this and have no job skills or experience and no education whatsoever. And I make quite a LOT of money from this and use the money I get to support my family (My family being content with my overwhelming support at this point). I'm expecting a baby in June as well so I don't have the ability to start new or fresh and I also support my girlfriend. I have over 9000 dollars worth of expenses to deal with every month at minimum so you can see why I can't just stop this job when I have zero education or job experience. We would be in literal poverty if I did that. The problem? This "fame" is literally killing me. I never thought that being an internet content creator would actually bring you recognizable fame in the real world but I was goddamn wrong. I just wanted to showcase my passion for video production. But at least 10 people recognize me a day and it can be any time anywhere. I could be going on a date with my girlfriend and get swarmed by people taking photos of me for "memes" or trying to suggest video ideas to me. This is completely my fault, as my videos feature my whole face/body throughout nearly every frame. But it's getting legitimately overwhelming. People are also incessantly cruel to me in real life, you'd think people treat "celebrities" with respect? WRONG they treat you like a caged zoo animal. I get boo'd very frequently, I've been assaulted, I've been doxxed and I've had my tires slashed (Though I'm not sure if that was related to me at all) all in the last 6 months. And now that I've started to reach mainstream social media with my content thousands upon thousands of people every day are discussing how evil, stupid, incompetent, worthless and undeserving of life that I am. It is unbelievably overwhelming how seriously people take my stupid content. People also go out of their way to find pictures of my family, I've been getting contacted by multiple stalkers that attempted to swat me, etc. On top of that, my own fans have been turning against me and demanding I make a specific old style of content I used to make and the pressure to keep up with their psychotic demands actually resulted last week in me drinking a bunch of liquor then trying cocaine with my friend Dan for the first time so that I would have the mental energy to get a video done. I don't sleep, I only eat one meal a day and I think about death every single day. I feel like I'm trapped in a living hell that I cannot escape from unless I were to completely destroy my own life. And I genuinely can NOT escape it, not only is my content with my face in it gigantic; a few of my videos have taken on a life of their own as huge internet memes due to the way I pronounce things. I will never be gone from the internet even years after I die. Why do people desire fame?
With the advent of social media, it seems that more and more people are chasing fame these days. What are the underlying reasons why people are so desperate for the attention of strangers? Are you pursuing a love of music or fame and glory?
I've been lurking around here for a couple of years now, and yes I have seen many people come and go.
I have to ask the members of this subreddit... are you an aspiring DJ for the music or for the hopes and ambitions of fame and stardom?
The reason why I ask, there's a lot more post these last few months that are more about seeking work/gigs/touring/money side of the medium, and less about the music itself.
DJ's first and foremost love music. Even if you are a nobody, have no aspirations of glory and commercial success what you have in common with the big guys is the love of music. Spending hours talking or thinking about it, a small fortune buying it and lots of lots of times playing it, getting better and learning. Im just starting to get the vibe around here it's more this subreddit is becoming a pursuit of 'instafame' and glory first, music second. i'm pretty sure i've started to hate people now. back in high school when i actually had real friends i felt happy to be around people. i felt like i had genuine connections with people and they cared about me unconditionally. but now the only 'friends' i have are ones that are working in the same field as me. but i see them as more like co-workers than friends. the worst part is no matter what happens or how i feel about them, i'm forced to be friendly with them. because otherwise fans will assume drama and i don't want that pressure on the other person. people think that every time someone famous does something there's an ulterior motive so i have to be conscious of every decision i make making sure that it won't lead to any unnecessary drama, or damaging to my image. i feel like i'm not free to make any decisions as a result. it's become extremely stressful having basic social interactions with people because of this. i haven't had any luck meeting interesting people who have no idea who i am so making new friends, people i actually want to connect with has been impossible for me.
i genuinely hate talking with other people. i'm so used to thousands of messages from complete strangers judging me or inquiring about my personal life daily that i think it diluted my cognitive capability of basic human interaction. i genuinely don't believe human beings are genetically designed to be talking to thousands of strangers every day, in the form of text no-less. what i'm doing is so mentally exhausting to me that it made me believe i will never find happiness, or true love, or start a family and raise children, things that everyone agrees are supposed to be the rules of life.
i'm not even passionate with what i do. it doesn't make me happy in the slightest. i know that not every fan is some over-obsessive loser. i know that there are good people who like me, but even if i read what they have to say about me i just feel nothing. i constantly say stuff like 'i love you guys, i wouldn't be doing this without you' but it's almost funny to me now because it's completely not true. truth is i just do it because i don't know how to do anything else. i got incredibly lucky and i make a lot of money doing relatively low-skill work and i'm too much of a coward to just abandon it and actually learn something new. the truth is that i'm kind of a bad person. every time i want to get into a romantic relationship with someone i always feel like they're with me for money and fame, even when it's not true. i tried doing some self-reflection and realized that not every person is out to get me or obsessed with internet culture or whatever. the fact that i assume they are is just my own insecurity. i understand and acknowledge that the problem is me, but that in-turn made me hate myself way more. how am i supposed to be a role model for literally millions of people when i'm this much of a shitty person? i wouldn't wish for anyone to be anywhere near like me and when i read comments from people saying how i inspire them it honestly makes me sick. i understand that the scale of my problems might not be that sympathetic with a lot of you. i mean, i'm wealthy and the position i have is desirable to most people. i understand that. but i'm not looking for sympathy anyway. i like reddit and especially this subreddit because of its animosity. i feel like telling your secrets to strangers on the internet who don't know you is so strangely gratifying which is why i wanted to give this a shot. so yeah. i don't know what to do. i know that as time goes by i'll become irrelevant and people won't care about me anymore, which might seem good, but considering how i literally don't know what else to do with my life it's actually terrifying rather than relieving. Have you ever wanted to be famous? If so why? If not why?
I was reading an article the other day and it was interesting it had this idea that all humans were obsessed with fame and it’s been like that for years. But has it? Is that just generalising? People who had a chance at being really famous and successful, and it didn’t work out, what happened? Do you think the only way to get famous nowadays is to get a shout out from someone bigger?
I feel like a lot of rappers and producers nowadays only started to come up after they got noticed by a bigger artist. I feel like the only way someone can make it as a producer/rapper is to collaborate with a bigger artists even if they're song sounds amazing
What has changed about you the most since becoming famous?
Are you happy about the change? Would you do something different to avoid the change if you could do it over? Big time celebs, musicians, actors, authors, reality celebs, porn stars, models, 15 minute folks, ect.. You all count. There's no need to tell us who you are.
If you don't get a shout out.. Coming up seems incredibly hard. I've felt this way since a child. I was never a perfectionist, but I was always a dreamer. My dream was to be a famous singer.
By high school I was acting and in singing groups. I sang and played piano solo for multiple events, usually to crowds of 400 or more. It scared me but I loved the attention.
In college I finished writing an album and recorded it. I didn't really market it since I wasn't happy with the outcome. I finished college by 21 and am now about a year out.
I don't have much to complain about. I have a steady job and make about $40k a year. I have an apartment in one of the nicest cities in the US. I have no debt/loans. I have a loving boyfriend and friends. I've travelled to 14 countries (and proudly can say I paid for it all myself).
Everyone thinks I'm doing great but I'm depressed all the time. I'm trying to have a steady and successful life to fill the void of fame that I've wanted since a child. I'm looking to go to grad school at the university I work for since it will be funded, but it's a 3 year commitment which means I can kiss a music career out the door.
I've never even tried to make it work. Something has always held me back. I get so frustrated seeing so many people have their 15 minutes of Internet fame and I can't even achieve that.
I often want to isolate myself from my relationships to focus on these goals but it's tiring. I feel conflicted at all times. My dad lived in NYC for 12 years when he was younger and pursued being an artist. He put his life on hold and didn't achieve that so maybe that's why I'm afraid. Not sure. Really need some advice. Are you looking to get famous? Would you want to be famous?
Knowing all you know from Deuxmoi/other celeb gossip blogs, especially when it comes to how terrible many well-liked celebrities are in real life, do you have any desire to be famous? Even if you don't want to be an A lister, how about a lesser level of fame like a B or C lister? I had a strong desire to be famous in the entertainment industry until I started reading more celeb gossip. I think I like my privacy more than the idea of fame. It seems like it'd be hard to date or even make friends as someone who is well-known because you don't know whether they want your company or proximity to your fame.
