Should I just give up on finding my soulmate?

Tbh there are a lot of people out there in the world.
We sometimes like to believe that we are in the best place to find that person but sometimes some of us do have to go a little further a field to cast our nets.
Are you happy where you currently are in life?
Good job?
Good support friends?
Close family?
Good home and area?
If any of these are out of whack, have you considered what you could do to improve those?

I'm not saying that this will solve your situation but it might be a healthier distraction.

I find matters of the heart personally really distressing and it kind of overwhelms me.

Be open, and cast your net a little...
You will get a nibble!