How did you finally come to realize that your soulmate was your soulmate?

Well we broke up. And I was a f&@8!$ mess. I hoped for 3 years we would reunite but it seemed final on his end. Except it wasn’t…. but it had to be. Anyway it’s a long dramatic story. We are not together. We should be but we aren’t and can’t be. I know he’s my soulmate bc some how I feel connected even when we actually aren’t. I know if I went over his house right now we would pick up like there weren’t 9 years between us. He feels like home. And it’s easy. or at least it was/would be.