I Loved Someone That Didn't Love Me

I fell in love with the most beautiful girl I ever met, her smile could brighten my entire day. She was one of the smartest people I ever met, and she is one of the most compassionate and caring people I ever met. For years I believed I wouldn't find anyone who could like me, I kept an emotional barrier between me and every girl I liked until I met her. Before I met her I never went out of my way to help someone since the last time I broke my heart. She taught me I could care about other people without being taken advantage of. But now she picked someone else and we rarely talk anymore. She's always said I'm one of the nicest, considerate, and compassionate guys she's ever met. She's always said we were friends, now I don't know if I should change back to the person I was before I met her. I know how unattractive I am, how I have nothing to compete with other guys, how worthless I feel compared to other guys. Is there any hope for me to ever find someone?

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SW-User

I think so. I'd work on your confidence though. You seem to have the most important things like decency and respect :-)

Razoreye001 · 31-35, M

How can I build confidence?

SW-User

@Razoreye001: Well I can't give you a total break down now but for a start you talk yourself down a lot. Why do you think that is?

Razoreye001 · 31-35, M

Because it's the hard truth as I know it; I am a 425lb man, who is 23, and never had a girlfriend in my entire life. I know for a fact there are millions of guys better looking than me. So why would someone who to me is a literal angel pick me when there are a million better looking guys than me on this planet?

SW-User

Luckily women are motivated by a lot more than looks. Lack of confidence though is unattractive. Sometimes low self esteem can lead to weight issues. If you started loving yourself more and worked on developing your confidence who knows what could go right for you? ;-)

Razoreye001 · 31-35, M

@Faerylight: The problem is what is there to like about me?

SW-User

@Razoreye001: :-D you get to choose that honey. Not only that, you get to be who you choose to be. We are all worthy. We are all worthwhile. Ultimately if I knew you I might be able to list several good qualities