A friend of mine has a problem

She says whenever she and her boyfriend get intimate she feels pain though they've done it a couple of times over the three years they've been together. She was a virgin when she met him. He's talking about marryimg her and she's worried because she knows when they move in together it'll be a regular thing. What could be the issue?

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HootyTheNightOwl

She's not relaxing enough???
She's not aroused enough???
She's only had sex a couple of times and needs more experience???

How the hell do we know what's going on??? We're not in her body...

Thandeka · 31-35, F

@HootyTheNightOwl That's not nice

HootyTheNightOwl

@Thandeka No, but it's truthful.

The only people who know what could be wrong are you and your bed buddy. Aside from that you don't need to be asking us lot about what could be wrong when your doctor knows so much more than anyone here does.

One piece of advice you got a lot:-

See your gynaecologist

Highlights that fact.

I know that I wouldn't be posting about it on here if I was having any problems in the bedroom... I'd be seeing my doctor - which is what you should be doing.

Thandeka · 31-35, F

@HootyTheNightOwl Doctors don't know everything. A lot of people go to them for help but don't get their issues solved. We don't know everything either. Everyone has moments where they ask questions no one has answers to. I was hoping someone has experienced the same thing here and could help out my friend. It wouldn't have hurt you to keep scrolling instead of being mean.

HootyTheNightOwl

@Thandeka Doctors will know more than the average SW user.

For a start, they have access to equipment that enables them to do scans.

Even if someone here has gone through similar, there's no guarantee that it's the same - their problem might have been caused by cancer and yours could be endometriosis.

At least go and get the obvious ruled out before marking it down as "Something I've got to live with". If you get to the end of that process and come back with nothing - then you start looking for tips in what others have been through.

Thandeka · 31-35, F

@HootyTheNightOwl I told her to go see a doctor and she said she'll think about it.